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Being Friends with Ex'es
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Haven't posted on here in a while ! Anyhoo ..
Just generally wondering, is it possible to be friends with an ex who you really loved?
Are any of you friends with your Ex'es and how is that relationship?
I'm only friends with one of my ex'es and that was my first serious boyfriend. I don't find it difficult at all because I was really fond of him but never felt the way he did I think. Like when I see him with his girlfriend it doesn't hurt or anything I'm just happy for him.
But when it comes to this other lad I used to go out with, I really did love him but now I'm actually over him (took me long enough) I can be around him or see him and not feel anything. We can talk and still get on but what really annoys me is he'll try and create a bit of a situation or say something like, 'this is weird isn't it?' when it's not. It's like he can't accept that I don't love him any more and I am just being friendly, nothing else. I would genuinely like to be friends with him but I'm not sure it could ever work because he's just such a big head.
I know I shouldn't care if he still thinks I like him or not but it does bug me and I want to say/ do something to drive the point across abit but it's difficult ... Any suggestions?
Just generally wondering, is it possible to be friends with an ex who you really loved?
Are any of you friends with your Ex'es and how is that relationship?
I'm only friends with one of my ex'es and that was my first serious boyfriend. I don't find it difficult at all because I was really fond of him but never felt the way he did I think. Like when I see him with his girlfriend it doesn't hurt or anything I'm just happy for him.
But when it comes to this other lad I used to go out with, I really did love him but now I'm actually over him (took me long enough) I can be around him or see him and not feel anything. We can talk and still get on but what really annoys me is he'll try and create a bit of a situation or say something like, 'this is weird isn't it?' when it's not. It's like he can't accept that I don't love him any more and I am just being friendly, nothing else. I would genuinely like to be friends with him but I'm not sure it could ever work because he's just such a big head.
I know I shouldn't care if he still thinks I like him or not but it does bug me and I want to say/ do something to drive the point across abit but it's difficult ... Any suggestions?
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It was me who ended it with her, I fell out of love and broke her heart apparantly. Anyway, we stayed friends for years....then we slowly stopped seeing so much of eachother but I was always glad to bump into her for a chat around town every now and then. Nearly got with her at a party a couple of couple of years back actually.
Anyway, I haven't actually spoken to her for about a year now, but that's mainly due to growing apart friendship group wise.
My other ex's I'm not in contact with at all.
I'm in contact with a couple of them, and we text now and again to say hi, and I guess I'll always care a little bit and wish them well, but I don't think we can ever be friends. It's just dynamics, in't it?
I'm not either. It ended fairly badly with them, so neither of us wanted that friendship. There's only a certain amount you can be screwed over and still want to talk to someone.
I am not friends with anyone who i went out with for a significant amount of time and i dont' really want to be.
I have troubles leaving a friendship with almost any girl on friendship basis as it is.
Anyway to the question, I'm friends with most of my exe's, some it takes longer than others but seem to get there in the end! I have a lot of lass mates and like having lass mates but seem to end up shagging most of em but still stay friends!
The few long term GF's I've had I'm still friends with! My first proper girl / first love etc. it took years but now we see each other out, I actually went back to her and her boys house this weekend to party after the pub and everythings cool now!
I'm also just getting back matey with my ex best mate who I got involved with stupidly probably bout 2 years ago and hoping we can get back to being good friends again.
I think your living in hope that he is checking up on you cos you want him to care and you want him to "crawl back (again)" but anyway!
Well facebook is for staying in contact, so unless he intends to (and it doesn't look like it) then I don't see why he would keep me on it. I'm deleting him once I get my money back anyway.
Thats one very good reason for never speaking to certain people ever agin.