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going to a festival with my brother...
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While my sister and I get on great, we have always found it difficult to maintain a relationship with our younger brother, 17. He is socially ackward (but then again, so am I), doesn't make friends easily and never goes out at the weekends. While I am sympathetic, it is not really my job to find him playdates considering I am
1) 22, and don't know any 17 year olds
2) I don't live at home anymore.
Me and my sister are going to a festival in a few weeks, and I've been looking forward to it for aaages. We've spent quite a bit on tickets and transport and we just wanted a day to chill out and relax with uni mates.
My mother is playing the guilt card and asking us would we mind taking him along. I can see this being a disaster, since my sister is taking her boyfriend and I am going with my 22 year old mate, and will be drinking all day. Her arguement is that, "och sure he'll just take himself off during the day and meet up with you later that night to return home"
I adore my family but I think my mum is being unreasonable.
Thoughts?
1) 22, and don't know any 17 year olds
2) I don't live at home anymore.
Me and my sister are going to a festival in a few weeks, and I've been looking forward to it for aaages. We've spent quite a bit on tickets and transport and we just wanted a day to chill out and relax with uni mates.
My mother is playing the guilt card and asking us would we mind taking him along. I can see this being a disaster, since my sister is taking her boyfriend and I am going with my 22 year old mate, and will be drinking all day. Her arguement is that, "och sure he'll just take himself off during the day and meet up with you later that night to return home"
I adore my family but I think my mum is being unreasonable.
Thoughts?
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I think you need to set your boundaries now. You are meeting your own friends and you will not be in a position to babysit. But I don't really think you can say that he can't come, especially as I assume that you are getting a lift from your mum?
I just wish he had some buddies to pal around with
It's a tough one because I don't think your mum is being unreasonable in asking you to go with him but I don't think you're being unreasonable in not wanting to babysit on your fun day out with mates.
I'd say set your boundaries and explain that you can't be with him all day. Try and talk him out of wanting to come by emphasising all the bands he hates. Try and talk your mum out of letting him by telling her about the age limit and how strictly enforced it is and how you wouldn't want him to be turned away at the gate and be humiliated by it.
Maybe try and compromise with your mum and offer to spend some time with your brother at some other opportunity? Also what others have said, emphasise the festival is 18+
I think you should have a chat with him and see if he actually wants to go or if it's just your mum. If he doesn't want to go maybe you could do something else with him instead like cinema or a drink in the pub to try and get him out of his shell and improve your relationship?
Me too - he is hardly going to come out of his shell if you never take him anywhere, you might even discover that he is fun to be with as well....
i would say to your mother that you can't take him on this occasion as it is an 18+ festival
then maybe start taking him out to the ub, if he drinks, or cinema or something
thats what i've done with two of my brothers and they started making their own friends when we were out and are now fine
Anyway, sorry to hear you have been roped into this.