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1) buy her something amazingly thoughtful that means something special to her and make her feel guilty and shitty
2) buy her nothing because she bought you nothing so why should you?
3) buy her something nice, but not over the top, showing that you are a lovely friend who actually remembers her friends' birthdays, she'll probably feel bad enough without you going all-out to get your own back.
depends how much you like her really
I didnt say I was 'upset'. Its more etiquete (sp) I'm asking about.
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No cards, no presents, just the promise to get right on it.
Fair enough, I wouldn't bother with a card, I never do anyway though.
i think i would get her a card and a small present. :]
Get her a drink and maybe a card but I wouldn't spend a lot on her if she can't afford/ be bothered to do the same for you.
There's no excuse for not getting ya best mate at least a card
(ok boys are different....but we aint talkin about boys here...)
And if i couldnt afford to get a present, i'd at least explain
But by the sounds of it, she didnt even know it was ya birthday, which in my opinion is even worse!
Just get her a card n a cheap bottle of plonk
If it was me I would buy her a pretty decent present and a really nice card...but then again I am petty
I'd go for omghi's option #3
as long as she actually said 'happy birthday' then i wouldn't worry too much over it
Just get her a card or something or if you don't want to, don't.
If she asks why you didn't get her anything, explain how upset you were when you didn't get anything off her!
If she is skint fair dues but all she had to do was say!
If she raises the issue, don't say "Well, you didn't get me anything!" but, rather, "Oh, I presumed you did not think it was important".
Get out of the habit of buying presents and cards etc and it will save you money in the future AND take the headache of trying to find something suitable.
Having said that, me and my close friends (male and female) usually always exchange at least a card. But I'm a lady boy. We do those sorts of things ... while the men are off huntin' and gatherin' etc
I can understand why you'd be frustrated but I think cases like those are when you decide what you think is more important, doing things eye for an eye or just behaving like you think is ideal and do something for her.
I don't get this whole giving cards thing (personally I'd rather not get anything than a card ) but it seems a fairly neutral way of acknowleding it's her birthday without doing anything special on the occasion.
In the grand scheme of things, I don't think birthday gifts are any true representation of the strength of a friendship.
Cards - waste of time and money, never mind the environment! Sod that.
Just forget about it - in the grand scheme of things, it really doesn't matter in the slightest. Bottom line. :yeees: If you're friends, just the continuing friendship is more than enough.
Well, to blokes, anyway. :rolleyes: Imagine if you were guys just how much time, money and worrying you could save by just not bothering with daft presents.
Me neither and they never get me anything. (because I'm so hard to buy for I think!)
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