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Hi
After around a month of arguements with my bf over a mate of his that i didnt like, he decided he needed to be single so we split up, after around 18months together. i was very upset and he told me he wanted to stay friends (which we had to as we work together) but that he also thought that i would still be the girl he married in the future and things would be different. After a few weeks apart i asked him how he felt & he said he still loved me but wasnt sure if he was in love with me.
After he heard rumors at work about me and another guy (which werent true) he appeared to be upset by it and kept asking questions.
Im still in contact with his family who live quite far away who are now very worried about him. Hes started going out getting drunk alot and is frequently borrowing money. We recently spent a day together and i thought we got on really well, like we use to, and thought he felt the same but i havent heard from him since.
Im not sure if this is just him gettin being single out of his system and will still want to get back together in the future or if he doesnt care anymore. Its been over two months and dont know whether i should look for another job (i only work part time) to get some distance to get over him.
Any advice greatly appreciated x
After around a month of arguements with my bf over a mate of his that i didnt like, he decided he needed to be single so we split up, after around 18months together. i was very upset and he told me he wanted to stay friends (which we had to as we work together) but that he also thought that i would still be the girl he married in the future and things would be different. After a few weeks apart i asked him how he felt & he said he still loved me but wasnt sure if he was in love with me.
After he heard rumors at work about me and another guy (which werent true) he appeared to be upset by it and kept asking questions.
Im still in contact with his family who live quite far away who are now very worried about him. Hes started going out getting drunk alot and is frequently borrowing money. We recently spent a day together and i thought we got on really well, like we use to, and thought he felt the same but i havent heard from him since.
Im not sure if this is just him gettin being single out of his system and will still want to get back together in the future or if he doesnt care anymore. Its been over two months and dont know whether i should look for another job (i only work part time) to get some distance to get over him.
Any advice greatly appreciated x
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I really think the best way to get over someone is to put space between you so maybe getting another job would be a good idea then you wouldn't be involved/ aware of what he's getting up to so you wouldn't have to worry.
It sounds like he's going through a bit of a phase how old is he?
From what you have said, he doesn't sound ready to settle down, and he can't expect you to wait around to find out if he might be ready in the future.
It sounds like you could both use some distance from each other, so you can both move on from the relationship. This might include having time apart from contacting his family too- they care about him and want you to be together but their opinions on the matter might just end up confusing you further.
We all want to see what the future holds, but because we can't we just have to trust what fate will bring us.