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Feeling unloved at home
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So, I'm thinking of moving out.
Basically, I'm 19 and living at home with my parents & family. There are 5 kids and I'm the oldest. I've got a full time job and pay rent, but I feel more like someone who rents a room than a part of the family.
I have this pet peeve that I HATE mess. I come home from work and end up making my 3 brothers their tea, cleaning the house, washing, ironing etc and I get shouted at for doing it. "Are you saying my house is dirty?!"
Frankly, it is....but I clean up because I know my mum doesn't have time and the others are lazy. It's become almost a running joke for my dad to say "Just leave your stuff on the side and Simone can wash it before she goes to work in the morning" and honestly, I'm sick of being a skivvy.
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I LOVE spending time at his house, I get along great with his mum because she treats me like the daughter she never had and says I'm always welcome there.
So to cut a long story short, I'm very seriously considering moving in with him. I stayed there for a week not so long ago because I was struggling to cope at home, I was just constantly upset.
How do I tell my parents that I'm moving out? How can I make them understand how I feel? It always seems to be about how I make them feel like crap. I've tried talking to them, but that is never going to work.
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Basically, I'm 19 and living at home with my parents & family. There are 5 kids and I'm the oldest. I've got a full time job and pay rent, but I feel more like someone who rents a room than a part of the family.
I have this pet peeve that I HATE mess. I come home from work and end up making my 3 brothers their tea, cleaning the house, washing, ironing etc and I get shouted at for doing it. "Are you saying my house is dirty?!"
Frankly, it is....but I clean up because I know my mum doesn't have time and the others are lazy. It's become almost a running joke for my dad to say "Just leave your stuff on the side and Simone can wash it before she goes to work in the morning" and honestly, I'm sick of being a skivvy.
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I LOVE spending time at his house, I get along great with his mum because she treats me like the daughter she never had and says I'm always welcome there.
So to cut a long story short, I'm very seriously considering moving in with him. I stayed there for a week not so long ago because I was struggling to cope at home, I was just constantly upset.
How do I tell my parents that I'm moving out? How can I make them understand how I feel? It always seems to be about how I make them feel like crap. I've tried talking to them, but that is never going to work.
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Maybe you should tell your parents close to or on the day you move out, it'll reduce available time for arguements. Also it will reduce the amount of time they might 'change for the better' only for you to decide to stay at home and things to fall back to the way they were.
Is seems they are ungrateful for the things you do for them, and you moving out might make them realise what they've been doing wrong.