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Contradictory emotions... confused!
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A while ago I broke up with my boyfriend; you might remember this thread:
http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php?p=2126838#post2126838
Well, after much umming and aahing, we spent a really wonderful day (and night ) together and we seem to have slipped back into things. He's been making a lot more effort; we went to the ballet together, he came with me to have a nasty procedure at the hospital and spent the rest of the afternoon giving me head massages and bringing me food, he's started looking at poetry and talking to me about the things I'm interested in....
For the past week I've had a really weird pattern going on; whenever we're apart I really miss him and have become really 'needy' (my description of it, not his). I want to see him almost every night and will call him while he's at work just for a chat. He's fine with it; he says he loves spending time with me and it's no problem if I want to call him at work, but I feel quite desperate. Thing is, when I do see him I find myself getting snappy and short with him and little things irritate me to the point where I go to bed early so I don't have to talk to him anymore.
I know a lot of this is due to the fact that I have a lot of work on at the moment and I'm quite stressed, but I wanted to know if anyone else has experience of this or if someone can offer me an objective opinon of what's going on. Is this just symptomatic of stress or was getting back with him a bad idea?
http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php?p=2126838#post2126838
Well, after much umming and aahing, we spent a really wonderful day (and night ) together and we seem to have slipped back into things. He's been making a lot more effort; we went to the ballet together, he came with me to have a nasty procedure at the hospital and spent the rest of the afternoon giving me head massages and bringing me food, he's started looking at poetry and talking to me about the things I'm interested in....
For the past week I've had a really weird pattern going on; whenever we're apart I really miss him and have become really 'needy' (my description of it, not his). I want to see him almost every night and will call him while he's at work just for a chat. He's fine with it; he says he loves spending time with me and it's no problem if I want to call him at work, but I feel quite desperate. Thing is, when I do see him I find myself getting snappy and short with him and little things irritate me to the point where I go to bed early so I don't have to talk to him anymore.
I know a lot of this is due to the fact that I have a lot of work on at the moment and I'm quite stressed, but I wanted to know if anyone else has experience of this or if someone can offer me an objective opinon of what's going on. Is this just symptomatic of stress or was getting back with him a bad idea?
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Bloody hell! Are you my double? Yoi've just described my love life to a tee, and explained it better than I ever could!
:yes: i was exactly the same with my ex! i kept finishing with him and getting back with him cos when we were apart i really liked him and missed him, but then when we were together i just couldnt wait to get away from him! i didnt want to be on my own but when i finally did leave him for good i felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders!