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Idiot of a friend - drink driving
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Well, one of my friends whose been a bit of an arse for a while (not the one in the other thread, this one is generally a bad guy) - turns out he's been getting blind drunk and joy riding with people in his car.
I'm really quite tempted (as I know he's on a short leash with his parents and they'd be mortified) to let them know as it's only a matter of time until he kills someone. He used to be alright but he's got the biggest ego in the world and it's only got worse. He's ridiculously loaded too and has hidden behind his parents most of his life so has never had to deal with 'real' consequences - maybe that's part of why I want him to get in trouble for being an idiot.
There's a difference (even though both are wrong), between getting drunk and going home at 30mph, and getting drunk and racing with others at 50-60mph through villages. It's only going to take one person to be at the wrong place at the wrong time and he's going to get sent down for death by dangerous driving.
It's a shame because he used to be ok, he's gone downhill though.
I'm really quite tempted (as I know he's on a short leash with his parents and they'd be mortified) to let them know as it's only a matter of time until he kills someone. He used to be alright but he's got the biggest ego in the world and it's only got worse. He's ridiculously loaded too and has hidden behind his parents most of his life so has never had to deal with 'real' consequences - maybe that's part of why I want him to get in trouble for being an idiot.
There's a difference (even though both are wrong), between getting drunk and going home at 30mph, and getting drunk and racing with others at 50-60mph through villages. It's only going to take one person to be at the wrong place at the wrong time and he's going to get sent down for death by dangerous driving.
It's a shame because he used to be ok, he's gone downhill though.
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ive known people killed by drink drivers, and im sure im not the only person on here that does
id personally want to wring his neck!
I think if it was a friend I didn't think needed an attitude change, I'd have a word with them, but even talking to him about it now he seems to think he can do no wrong. I just said on MSN "you're going to kill someone drink driving" and he said "not me mate", as in he's too good a driver.
As for pleasure through misfortune, I don't want him to suffer and I won't enjoy it - I just don't enjoy seeing someone with such a lack of responsibility to life. Can't defend myself from wanting him to get his comeuppance though.
The other week he was talking about doing something silly and I told him not to, if he needed to talk I was there, so I must be concerned at some level. He's just mixed up. Turned out he was gay not long ago and I'm pretty sure he is (he made moves on me and another male friend), but has a not liberal family and so not come out openly, since got a 'girlfriend' who really is taking him for all he's worth (it's actually tragic) and since money is no object to him... then he found out she's actually seeing some other guys and wanted to top himself. Then he's best buds with her again now, buying her ludicrously expensive gifts.
He just lacks that sense of maturity and it's manifested in all his actions. And drink driving recklessly above the speed limit with passengers is going way too far, so I don't know what to do
The only reason I know is another mutual friend told me because they were concerned he was gonna kill himself doing it, so I think there's genuine cause for concern.
As in dob him in.
:yes: Hes taking a stupid risk with his life and with others and someone needs to make him see this.
I used to know someone who lost thier licence and very nearly got a custodial sentance because they got caught drink driving. Got their licence back and continued to do it (never occured to them as a heavy drinker they would still be over the limit in the mornings :rolleyes: )
This girl on my team drink drives all the time, got sent to rehab, made a big joke out of it and acts like she's fucking Amy Winehouse now.
I'd say something, could even save the life of somebody someday? Grass or no grass, you'd feel beyond shite if somebody died by getting hit by a car driven by this lunatic this weekend.
But as it stands I'm going to leave it to my barman mate. If he never does it again - good - but if he does we do need to stop him even if it means calling the police. My mate was quite close to calling the cops last time but thought twice. Apparently, the driver also at times lets this girl drive and she hasn't got a driving licence let alone tax - and I really do mean it when I say she has 3 brain cells.
I know where you're coming from, I wasn't there at the time. But just have to wait and see now.
Next time you're in the pub with him, ring the police about 20 minutes before he's due to leave then ring again when he does. Hopefully then he'll get what he deserves and won't kill someone.
By the sound of it, getting blind drunk and really RACING, I think it is actually pretty lucky he hasn't hurt anyone yet. Do you think informing his parents will help?
Means reporting someone to the authorities
"Mate, you're a nice bloke, and I like you - but if I hear about you drink driving again, I will take you in. No questions."
That was the end of that. It is the one thing coppers hold no leeway on. They know how much shit it can cause.