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And my curse is that every woman I think is attractive, turns out to be a smoker. And the few who don't aren't single either.
Ahem. Sorry for the unhelpful post...
I don't think its unfair to ask if he'd consider it. Its unfair to pressure him, but he might not have realised how much it bothers you. You never know til you ask him.
My ex used to smoke :yuck: I've never going to kiss a smoker again.
I told him I didn't like kissing him after he had been smoking. He asked me if I wanted him to quit. I did really, but I told him that he was an adult and had to decide that for himself, but I didn't want to kiss him when he'd been smoking. He quit
He didn't smoke much though, so don't think it was a big issue for him.
I agree with Pringle there. I'm a smoker and my most recent ex wasn't. He didn't like me smoking, but he never put pressure on me to stop. He did, however, ask me if I'd consider quitting, or at least cutting down, and when I said that I would try to quit for him he was by my side throughout, lending support and encouragement.
I'd recommend discussing it with your boyfriend, maybe even tell him that you're concerned that he's smoking more than usual, and ask him if he'd consider cutting down again, at the very least. Eventually, should he want to, he'll be more able to quit if he's smoking less.
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I could date somebody who smoked if they didn't do it constantly and get sick a lot. My only issue is the health one, I used to see a chick who smoked a lot of pot and had bad lungs and got out of breath easily. I am a very active and energetic monkey myself, so I'd need somebody with my energy levels.
I don't get people who say they would never date a smoker, somebody with tattoos, a meat eater, a vegan, a Christian, somebody who uses pills, a cat person ect... You can't help who you fall for and if that person looks after themselves, so what?
I think asking him to not smoke around you is completely ok, imho. You won't confine him in his right to smoke, but it's understandably that you don't want to have it around you. If someone wanted to smoke in my flat, s/he'd have to stand at the open window too.