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Inadequate
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Lately I have been feeling quite inadequate and useless. My lovely bloke has booked a holiday for us in the summer at a posh hotel with a spa and I although I know I should be looking forward to it I cant seem to muster up any happy feelings, I am worried about being all lumpy and white on the beach and then going out at night with all the pretty girls around.
If I think rationally about it I know I am being silly, as he has seen me naked lots and lots and has tried to reassure me that he loves me, thinks I am gorgeous and that I am the only one for him, but its more about how I feel about myself, I am totally lacking in confidence in all aspects of my life right now.
Everyone other than my closest friends think I am this super confident, bright, young (ish) woman who everyone likes and has a great sense of humour but its just a front.
I worry so much about how I look and how people perceive me, I just dont know what I can do to make my feelings change so I can start to be more positive about my life and my future. I don't want to ruin the holiday by feeling down while we are meant to be off being spoiled and having a good time.
If I think rationally about it I know I am being silly, as he has seen me naked lots and lots and has tried to reassure me that he loves me, thinks I am gorgeous and that I am the only one for him, but its more about how I feel about myself, I am totally lacking in confidence in all aspects of my life right now.
Everyone other than my closest friends think I am this super confident, bright, young (ish) woman who everyone likes and has a great sense of humour but its just a front.
I worry so much about how I look and how people perceive me, I just dont know what I can do to make my feelings change so I can start to be more positive about my life and my future. I don't want to ruin the holiday by feeling down while we are meant to be off being spoiled and having a good time.
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It sounds like you have a lovely boyfriend and a wonderful holiday planned However, worries about body image can put a dampner on things so it's great that you're looking to improve your confidence relating to these issues.
The BBC Website has a really good article about body image that I would recommend reading here. I think this paragraph is particularly insightful:
You may also find some of these practical exercises helpful.
I hope this helps a little - but do come back and tell us more about how you're feeling as we'd love to help more if we can.
but if you're that fussed about how you look - then join a gym or go swimming or something. do some push-ups and sit-ups in the privacy of your own home if you prefer. there is a lot of time between now and the summer, so if YOU wanted to (not because of what you think other people would think) then you can make a difference