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Just curious
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How would you feel if your lass (or lad, I guess) was a dancer, parading around in a thong and not that much else some of the time in front of countless drunken blokes/women in a club etc? Or if they were an actor/actress and had to do nude/semi-nude scenes? Or the same, but in a photo-shoot?
I am quite curious about this, following on from the other thread. I found myself in this situation a few years back. First reaction when I found out what one of the jobs entailed was "WTF?!". This lasted all of about 3 seconds when I just thought "So what? It's her job." Never bothered me again...
I am quite curious about this, following on from the other thread. I found myself in this situation a few years back. First reaction when I found out what one of the jobs entailed was "WTF?!". This lasted all of about 3 seconds when I just thought "So what? It's her job." Never bothered me again...
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I think would find the actor thing harder to be completely honest, even though the rational part of me KNOWS its a job, and thats what it takes to do it, and it means nowt except that. think would still find it hard to actually see him getting off with someone else, even if I knew it was just a charactor, not really him. if that makes sense. I would like to think wouldnt get worked up about it, hope would just get used to it.
Nude scenes wouldn't be SO much of a problem, but if it was part of a sex scene then I WOULD feel funny. I would know it was his job but I also know they have to try and make it look as real as possible so I would just not be able to separate the two.
Coincidentally I am talking to a girl now, who is a photomodel and had photos of her made in thongs too. If I was too miffed by it, I guess I would not have started to talk to her?
If she was a porn actress it would be different. That'd be too much for me...
Acting is different because an actor is playing a character, but a stripper isn't pretending. They're getting everything out for cash. I don't like that.
It's not insecurity, I'm perfectly secure in our relationship, there are just some things which are for my eyes only.
Then when things got more serious I'd probably have a phase where I felt a bit insecure about it.
Then I think I'd be alright with it once that phase was over.
Saying that, it depends on the relationship. If it was a relationship based on just sex then it'd be harder because it'd seem less exclusive (mainly because there's not THAT much that you see than Joe Bloggs couldn't), whereas if it was a deep and meaningful relationship then the trust thing would make it easier.
Bit of a funny development on this topic... I ended up going home with a stripper on Friday night. She's a friend of a friend (and I've seen her at her work a couple of times) and she came out on a clubbing session with us.
Lovely girl and we all had a great laugh, and I'm not sure how it got started (both pretty drunk etc), but she and I ended up having a bit of a kiss here and there, which ended up with us going back to hers after the club shut (6:15am or so). Sex was great, not least as she is 100% comfortable and confident with her body, and we had a good laugh the next day too before I headed home.
Much fun was had, and I am certain to be seeing her again.
To re-answer my own question: No, it still doesn't bother me. What you do doesn't define who you are (although I do know that a lot of people have issues with people doing this kind of job), and I don't see anything wrong with stripping. Hell, if I was a good looking girl, I'd probably do it too as it's easy money (if you enjoy it) - taking £££ from silly men
Anyhoo - if something happens, it happens. Will see if that's the course things will follow.
They're still acting mate. They give us (blokes) the impression that they're doing it because they love it, when most of the time I don't think they do.
I've been out with a stripper and my sister is one.
From what I've learnt they enjoy the job but generally not because thery're exhibitionists, but because it's an ego boost, they don't often have the chance to get that sort of power over men, and they earn shit loads doign it.
If I'm intrested in a girl than I have no problem in what she chooses to do for a job as long as it doesn't invlove cheating on me. I'm a pretty confident lad, but I coudl see how it would make others uncomfortable.
If I'm comfortable with my sister doiugn it, I'm pretty sure that I'd be comfortable with any serious girlfriend doign it.
I did a very similar thing last year.
A lot of my mates were givign it the old, how much did it cost which really pissed me off the same lads that bassically objectfy these girls.
I liked her, she was smart, earnign cash through the job whilst putting herself through college. I saw her a couple of times but it fizzled out. Go for it, most of these girls are seriously street wise having to deal with twats on a daily basis.
Too right - I've had a couple of 'interesting' reactions from a couple of the few people I've told, but it really doesn't matter.
Yeah, she was spot on. Straight down the line, owns one property and is saving towards a 2nd (which is seriously impressive) and had a wicked sense of humour. Works for me!