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Leap year proposals
Pearly
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Are you a girl who's popped the question to your other half because it's a leap year? Are you planning on doing it this year, because 2008 is in fact a leap year!
What are your thoughts on proposals - should it be left to the man?
This is research for a new Valentine's Day article so just to let you know I may be using some quotes!
Cheers
Pearly
What are your thoughts on proposals - should it be left to the man?
This is research for a new Valentine's Day article so just to let you know I may be using some quotes!
Cheers
Pearly
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oh and if you got married on 29th feb would that mean you only had a wedding anniversary every 4 years?
You're a bit abrupt with your questions Pearly! Pad them out a bit more
Well traditionally women were only allowed to do it on a leap year! Now it's just a good excuse hey girls! Not that I would be doing it though, think it would be a bit mean - will you marry me? Yes! Ok, off you go and get me a big rock please! lol
Ooh harsh words! People moan if I put too much on there! Nothing much more to say really at the risk of going into too much detail - just is it something you would consider, or not, or have you done it yourself - whether it be a leap year, or not?
Don't worry Pearly I didn't mean it in a horrible way, just sometimes it comes across as a bit impersonal and "give me answers now, you hobags", maybe because you don't post as much and we don't know you well?
As for proposing, I think it's far more likely that me and him will just kind of decide to get married, rather than a BIG FAT PROPOSAL or anything, and when you've discussed pretty much every aspect of the wedding you see yourselves having then it kind of negates the need for a proposal.
I don't see why women should have to wait for a leap year to propose, seems like that's the kind of thing that's in the past, like maypoles. If a man or woman wants to propose then it shouldn't have anything to do with what type of year it is ... but maybe that's just because I've never heard of this 'tradition' before.
Why's it one of "his jobs", then?
It's win/win, girls! Deffo on my 2008 itinerary :thumb:
But if I had an attitude transplant and did want to get married: I don't like the idea of proposals, I'd rather discuss it together, go buy the ring together, etc.
I would hate to have others organize stuff about it, like him buying the ring, or my parents organizing the wedding (they wouldn't now, but their wedding was organized by mum's parents - which I'd hate. Have already warned them if I ever do get married, I'm organizing everything)
I sound such a control freak
What if we said no? Would we have to give him a pound (ooo, generous!) & something silky? "No, I don't want to marry you, but here's a pound & some new silk boxers to make you feel better."
No. They get to ask girls every day of the year, but you have to save them all up for 4 years at a time.
Hey, I don't make the rules. I just want my quid.
Yeah and 8 years between wedding anniversary presents.
Meaning with the 7 year itch, you might never have to buy one.
Absolutely brilliant
Damn, I wish we waited now
Although gaining a pound and something silk, and seeing the look of shock and horror on my oh's face could be worth it for the comical value.
Obviously there's no question of gender imbalance, since we are both women, but it seemed like a nice romantic gesture. Maybe in 2012...
Taking the leap
Thanks guys and gals
However, 4 years on I'm still studying (roll on september and hopefully handing in the thesis!) and we're still living with his mum with no realistic prospect of moving out before the end of the year, so with so many unknowns in the air, the time isn't really right to be planning weddings. He'd be practical and say no.
Besides, I think he's somewhat of a traditionalist at heart in this matter and would probably be a bit miffed if I waded in there and beat him to it!
Ah well...
I think I'm going to take the leap so to speak and propose this year! I'm taking a big risk because I really have no idea what he'll say!! I'm absolutely bricking it that he'll say no!!
We'll have been together four years (In May) this year, and feel the time is right. We'll both be finishing uni this year and getting proper jobs (that might take us apart for a year) and I feel now is a really good time to ask him - it also helps give the feeling of commitment when we won't see each other (not that I don't think he's committed).
So, how would you girlys go about this momentous occassion (even if you don't agree with it)?
Fi
Good for you for deciding to take the plunge! :thumb:
Tbh, I don't think I'd ever be able to do that myself - I'd be too scared he'd say no, but then I'm an insecure girl when it comes to matters of the heart. Besides, I also think that a bloke might feel like you're taking his 'thunder'
But that's just me of course!
So, on to the advice part... how would I do it? I'm not really sure, blokes normally have the ring they can give you which speaks for itself - but since there is no equivalent gift for a man I guess you'll just have to word it through. But still there are so many ways to do this! Hmm... I guess I have to think this over a bit. :chin: I'll get back to you, lol.
This must be the most useless post ever. Sorry, it's late!