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I asked someone about a week ago when I got back - a week last sunday in fact. They said noone had really sorted it yet so not to worry. Then I'm busy with exams and can't go out, seems most people are enjoying the first week cos they only have 1 exam, but then comes to today and people are sorted, 3 groups:
6 guys - signed the lease
4 girls - best mates who were gonna go together anyway
5 other mixed group - but just squeezed another girl on from another floor cos she had noone to live with, and not enough space for me
i dont really know anyone else, thats everyone all wrapped up neatly. Sometimes I think I'm naturally unlucky. I mean, first year at uni, they put me in accomodation where I wasn't with other freshers, just nursing students (cos they were short on accomodation). Second year, they said they'd put me on campus in may when i took a leave of absence but then said they were short and I wasn't guarunteed a place, told about 2 weeks before to look for somewhere private i kicked up a fuss - they told me 4 days before i had a place - it was the other side of town in a fairly run down room above a shop with no phone / internet / etc just a kitchen, bathroom and room.
I complained to the college administrator who took plight with my cause, the student support was great making sure I got involved but it didn't matter because everyone else was connecting with people on their floor, not the random. A week later I got a place on a block, met everoyne, started making friends with them and got on well. But I don't think I made best friends with anyone because they already knew each other before. I dunno.
Just seems like a slap in the face they'd organise accomodation without me, but I can't blame them I guess.
Every time I try so hard with uni but it just doesn't seem to come through for me does it?
Sorry for the rant. *deep breath*
uni is 80% people, 20% studying for me.
Speaking of your depression, which might not just be completely settled, or your self-entitled shyness and social anxiety might not be the best attributes to enjoy the university years.
i do talk to people inside class sometimes off my own back too..i just fake being chatty and smiley. i have friends here too but im still unhappy
welcome to the wonderful world of depression, where unhappiness doesn't need a reason.
I feel for ya. When I finished my first semester (by doing NOTHING!... you might remember that I started in summer semester, so basically second semester: worst_decision_ever.), I spent the day on my couch in fetal position saying to myself that I don't want to do anything else than being a paramedic my whole life long (just before I entered uni, I finished civil service. I worked as a paramedic for 12 months).
I pulled myself together and entered uni again.
I am very doubtful about psychotherapy. It helped loads for a friend of mine, but I'm still so doubtful about the remedy for the mind. Don't be so closed-minded as me and do get (good!) professional help. I probably never had depressions and I'm happy about it. You need to get that sorted out.
It's a tough way, but as long as you keep in mind: I am in treatment, I'm going to be better, I feel the good progress, etc...
I am proud of you that you did not give up yet and that you still do a lot of work and are hard-working. (I just lost my child support money, because I am doing too little... it's gonna be a real busy semester).
you're a strong gal, you know that.
Also, please allow me to second the absolutely exemplary post from **Helen** earlier.
:yes: I always found the Christmas to Feb part of university (or lack of university) to be a slog. In fact, I have really vivid memories of it from my first year - which is going back about a million years
yea, I see that...
In austria you have ( so i think ) even more holidays.
I have 15th dec to 7th january off. 1st feb to 1st march. 1 or 2 week at eastern, 3 or 4 days at pfingsten (holidays in austria).
and 3 full fucking months, July, august and september, so I have nearly half the year off.
I WOULD need the time for revising for exams, but in the holidays I'm just too bum lazy. In summer I always look for a job.
So I just came back home. Because otherwise I would be bored stiff in my flat doing not-very-much and getting fat. Instead I came home to work and earn a bit more money.
what year are you in? i'm still in first and next year i'm moving into a house with two of my friends in the area..i think living at halls and being on main campus i don't feel at home..it's hard to distinguish between being comfortable in your room and being on uni grounds..to me anyway
Yeah I get what you mean, with me we get accomodation for the 3 years of our course so I'm always 'on uni groudns' :-/ you're quite lucky to have found some people you want to move in with though.
I'm in second year, halfway through (thank god) and just can't stand it here. It has seriously depressed me so much being here, that even when I get home for holidays I spend the last week being depressed about coming back.
I thought about that, then fudged around with doing the solution, then went hell-for-leather fixing that one thing I thought of. Uni still ain't great, I don't do a little tap dance on my way in but... it is better.
also 'immersing' myself in my studies..eww!! :razz: