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My best mates just told me shes pregnant
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The support of the parents, plus a support from a good friend such as yourself should see her through.
no not her dad.
the babies dad
Hope the baby's dad & her own parents are supportive. Has she told her parents?
Good luck to her
I hope shes ok.
or.. condolences..
I don't know...
Its hardly difficult to find the context of the post. Dickhead.
I hope she can find the strength to tell her primary caregivers, because although they're likely to be cross at first, they'll have her best interests at heart, and will help her. They won't LIKE the idea, but I'm sure they'd help her.
i didn't read it. just the title.
/e: and actually it is. after you said "she is the most sensible practically perfect person I know.".
I heard people cry for being happy too, when overwhelmed.
so temper temper, madam.
That's true enough, but if your friend became pregnant and she was scared and upset would you say 'well, you could have an abortion'. It's not about the facts necessarily but approaching the situation with tact and sympathy. Listening more than anything.
If you cant be arsed to read the post I'd prefer you not answer at all.
Yup thats whats going to happen.
*hugs* Just having a supportive friend like you must be a great comfort to her during this difficult time.
You may also want to direct her to some information on TheSite.org/print out factsheets that she may find helpful. The following articles in particular:
Pregnant - what now
Should I have a baby
Abortion
Dealing with an abortion
Also, she may be interested in using Ask Brook which you can find out about here
Hope this helps.
Being there for her isn't useless, you aren't useless you're her best friend and you're needed and appreciated. "Being there" is the most you can do for her at this point in time and... really, it's all you can do for her.
I know it's been a few days now, perhaps suggest she talks to her GP, or brook or someone. Don't pressure her too - if she's quite early on she will be ok for a bit. If she goes, and isn't ready to talk or absorb what she is told - there is no point in her going. When she does decide to go offer your support, or encourage her to invite the baby's dad - depending on his opinion and support with it all.
Don't pressurise her to talk to her parents - continually being told that your parents will understand and they will support you by people who don't know your parents (you may think you know them but do you know them behind closed doors?) only makes things worse for her.
I go with Helen with the printing off the factsheets, perhaps email or msn her the links but explain that you do understand that she may not want to look or talk about them yet.
Just be there, let her bring the conversation up. She may just want to talk about "normal" stuff - it will be buzzing around on her mind constantly and she may want you act like it isn't happening. Mabye that's not healthy or the best way - but don't knock it; it's hard enough as it is for her at the moment.
Just be there, led her take the lead. Be a physical shoulder to cry on - she needs it x x x
and I'd prefer you to have some manners.
Not everyone gets your initial emotion from your ambiguous OP.
Oh I do have manners honey but I reserve them for people who actually deserve them. For example people who can be bothered read a post before adding to it.:rolleyes:
please just make sure she knows she can be honest with you about what she wants to do...please dont push your opion on her (im not saying you are)
I know it might seem a major thing just now but whateva happins everything will be ok for your freind.
Sorry a lil off topic but why do people post just to be bitchy or act a smart ass.aint this ment to be a site that offers help and opinions?anyways hope everything works out for your friend.
There was nothing ambiguous about the OP, you replied insensitively and Kate bit down - and no the insults aren't OK, but it actually wouldn't be a bad idea for you to think twice before responding to certain threads. Back on topic.
I am certainly not your honey, for starters... and if you really took offense of my post, well, than this must be a tough world for you, filled with meanies.
anyhoo...
Isn't that a common sentiment? The "what if" questions? The "Awww, I could have a little baby by now." Do you think you would still hold the same opinion if you actually had that kid now, maybe single, struggling to pay for your child? The trouble to work to have the money and being the mother that the kid needs at the same time?
:yes: Whilst encouraging her to talk to soeone would be a good idea, don't force her into doing soething that she's not ready to do. I would also suggest that when she does tell her parents, you could go wth her as well for support?
You have just totally explained your first post. :rolleyes:
To be quite frank I won't be reading anymore of your posts as I find you an incredibly pointless addition to any threads.
Feel free to respond but as above I won't be reading it so I don't care :thumb:
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