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How would you feel if your partner was friends with someone you hate?
Is it rational to feel uncomfortable?
Is it rational to feel uncomfortable?
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I wouldnt say it was irrational at all.
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but I think it also is important to know, why you hate him, why they are friends etc. (f.e. Is he befriending her as revenge, because you hate him?)
I am in a similar constellation, because I have friends from uni, where one party dislikes the other (without the other party knowing). I can live with that, but it's probably nothing compared to a partner.
/e: and by reading bunnie's post.
If my (straight) partner, would be friends with a girl who I hate, it would be o.k. for me, when I do not have to hang out with her.
If she was good friends with a dude I hate (he maybe made advances to her at some time), then it would bother me.
may I ask you bunnie, why you hate him? It's just that I can't put myself in your place. I think the friends a person has, tells much about the person itself. And I would ask myself why my partner is friends with someone so stupid (in my opinion then...)
he treated my bf badly, and is a rude and obnoxious dick! He has no morals and treats his girlfriend appaullingly.
He is still in the same group of friends unfortunately. I do like all his other mates but I cannot stand him!
and why is your b/f still befriended with him?
That is his choice - I think it is through ease more than anything else as they are all in one group but he knows my feelings on him.
It's easier to deal with if people can keep it buttoned when they need to, even if there's not much mutual love there y'know?
I avoided a relationship recently, partially because I didn't trust or like her friend (and thus... Birds of a feather ect ect).