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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
Bit of help please...

Myself and my gf have been trying to have sex for a while - but with no luck.

Everytime we try - something goes wrong.

For some reason ( and I do feel pretty relaxed ) , I cant seem to enter her at all. It is so frustrating.

Any tips ?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Are you both virgins? Has she had sex before? What else part from penetration goes wrong?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    both virgins yes.

    nothing else goes wrong. The foreplay is all good but I just cannot get it in ( I know it sounds stupid ! )
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sometimes it takes awhile to get the angles right, have you tried guiding it in with your hand?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yes, a few times.

    I just think with this practise makes perfect and we have to keep trying. I suppose no pain - no gain.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    simms wrote: »
    Yes, a few times.

    I just think with this practise makes perfect and we have to keep trying. I suppose no pain - no gain.

    Is your cock long and fat? Could it be a size issue?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    no, not really.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmmm .. okay .. try using lots of lube?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    maybe your girl isn't relaxed enough. maybe it would be better if she went on top and that way she can control it more?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    what lubes would you suggest & where can I get them from ?

    thanks
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, KY is the most well known. Boots sell KY and other brands (presuming that you live in the UK?). Remember that they ought to be water-based so that they work with your condom.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The Durex ones are pretty good, wouldnt go for the red one though (cant remember what its called) it seemed to get a little too hot for me and a bit ouch.

    Just relax and dont think about it too much.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Also, have you tried fingering her (and more than one finger) as part of the foreplay? Sometimes that can make things easier.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sounds like a textbook case of nerves. If a girl's nervous, her pelvic muscles are going to tighten, making penetration difficult, if not downright impossible. Solutions include ensuring that you're both relaxed beforehand. Next, give her plenty of oral sex. If you don't know how to, just learn off each other. If you fancy some tips, do a search on this site. (it's astonishing how much some members here know about oral sex)

    Try using a variety of different condoms, the thicker ones may be helpful in the beginning. Men who have a lack of sexual experience tend to ejaculate far more quickly. That's natural enough. Sex gets better with practice. There's a blue version of Durex that does well for that purpose, though I forget its name right now...
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