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Relationship without sex
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Just wondered if you can be with someone who you love and never have sex with them.
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If you don't have a sexual relationship then you're just friends. You can't be legally married without having sex.
I understand that you can have a marriage annulled because of lack of conjugal rights - but is it 'illegal' if both parties agree?
not my choice but i love him all the same, i would still say we have a relationship though.
Why do you ask, as a matter of interest?
In my opinion, part of a relationship is the touching, kissing and cuddling which, in itself, often leads to more. Would a non-sexual but committed relationship stop at holding hands?
Is it for any reason? Or is he just not interested in sex at all?
I wouldn't do that again though. It was my first real relationship and I didn't know any better. You do miss out on a lot of emotional closeness by not having sex.
You don't need to have sex to have a sexual relationship and a lot of younger couples probably won't have full sex.
Most couples will go through a drought where they don't have sex with each other, but really if you stop having a sexual relationship completely (and that includes kissing and cuddling) then you're just friends. Being friends is a very important part of a good relationship, but there does need to be more than friendship.
Well without trying to make excuses for him because i would have sex with him right now given the chance, there are many reasons, mainly he is having trust issues which we are trying to resolve, he is very stressed from his job and works away a lot.
Coping with it is really hard, but what will be will be
There's a lot of love and care going both ways, but the greatest fear would be having a life together without sex. Don't think we're at the life together stage yet though, so it's all dandy.
That's not what was said, though. The point is, you can get your wedding annulled (rather than divorced) if you have not had sex - it is a valid and accepted reason for an annulment.
Yes. That is right. It mentions nothing about the premarital sex that you mentioned in your post.
No, I didnt read it like that. I read it as you can legally annul a marriage if its never consumated.
of couse if neither party want to annul it for that reason, its still a legal marriage, but if one person is not happy with it and the other person just never ever wants sex, then theyre perfectly within their right to say it was never a marriage in the first place.
But there are examples of disabled people, older people, asexual people who have no interest in having sex, or even people who don't have working sexual organs, who have fulfilling relationships without sex being a part of it.
A marriage is not legally binding if it is not consummated, i.e. if you have not had sex. That is why a marriage that has not been consummated is annulled, rather than divorced- it is treated as though it never existed, because legally it didn't.
A marriage is also not religiously binding if you don't have sex. My wedding vows in a CoE wedding including vowing to produce children. The Catholic Church recognises annullment for marriages that were not consummated.