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His family do my head in!
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Is he with you when you are getting asked all these questions?
she probably thinks that she's making you feel welcome, trying to get to know you
i cant really comment on the holiday thing, as i dont know how much time you spend together or how serious the relationship is....but if you'ce got serious quite quick, she might just presume you're in it for the long haul
as for the birthday, i dont see the problem, if you had already made plans, say so...if not, why not just go?
BUT if the "sitting in the lounge for an hour" thing is regular, i'd speak to ya fella and ask can you stay with them a bit less, just tell him you wanna spend more time alone
You are dating HIM, not his mum. In his place I (as b/f) would bail you out like, "hey mum, excuse [girlfriend] please. (to g/f): Let's go to my room [doing whatever].", IF I knew you weren't comfortable with it. Maybe it's going on his nerves too, that you always seem to chit-chat with his parents while he wants to be alone with you, to talk, or whatever.
communication is the key. Of course you can't tell his mum to bugger off, but your b/f should be reasonable about it and "help you out." I think in not too distant future his mum will realize that you come over to his place for him and therefore want to spend time with him and that can happen without outright declining her, so that she can't even say you were rude.
To family-gatherings and shit it would always be me who invites my g/f, not my mum. Maybe this one day I want to be alone with my family, so I should decide so too.
it might be delicate, but if you are careful he must and will be understandable about it.
ETA: the above depends on how old you both are.
My girlfriend has 6 older brothers so I hafta be careful when I'm round there. :angel:
i know she don't like me, she knows she don't like me, the only person who doesn't know is my boyfriend :yeees:
shes well possive, my bloke is 21 and his bro is 19 and she STILL sits up waiting for them to come in after a night out and "can't sleep" untill she knows her boys are home.... omg they are grown men now!!! not 15 anymore!!!!!!!!!! and she don't have a boyfriend either so her whole life is focused on her sons :banghead:
she even tells my boyfriend if he can drive his car or not :eek2:
So sorry i cant be much help, i do know what you are going through tho!