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Keep us informed. Im all excited now lol
My mum has a thyroid problem and she's had 4 kids - 2 at once even . So I wouldn't worry too much .
I have an underactive thyroid and i did have before having James. Mine wasn't managed very well at all in preg but we were still both ok thankfully. I have done my research ready this time so i will be telling them what i want!
Not two things that are usually said in the same breath
I'm broody at the moment. Tres rubbish. My mind knows it's a silly idea at the mo, but my body's all 'COME ON! You're of the age now. Procreate!!!'
Crazy lady bodies
it's even worse because i'm in a steady relationship.
if it wasn't for the fact we're young and the whole stigma attached to that, oh and me been at uni i'd have one now.
eventhough i know it's totally wrong timing i still can't help thinking about it all the time.
I think everyone is crap with kids before they have them, it's a learning process afterall. But I don't think you're weird for thinking that, but I don't think it's weird either for people around 21 to want kids, or to even have kids! I wouldn't do it, I want to wait until my 30s. The way I see it (this may be a male perspective, or just for those who are slightly intimidated by babies lol) is that atm, I'm free. I can pack up and travel to bolivia tomorrow and try and stage a coup and then launch a glorious revolution of hippy's, whilst at the same time being the first man to attempt to peddle to Mars.
If I had kids I would become the kids slave. Not that most fathers probably feel like that, but it's just how I feel I would become. I'm sure when (if) I become a father, I'll be over the moon. Just atm, I'm enjoying my freedom and don't like the thought at all of having to support another living being that's completely dependent on me for pretty much the rest of my life.
I think it's kind of like Chandler from friends how he gets freaked out about marriage and stuff at first. I'm just no way ready for any of that kind of commitment
For now, I also want to have fun etc, my problem is that it's not happening... I feel I've pretty much wasted my youth, and still am wasting it, but still can't find a way to stop wasting it.
I also feel like I'm off topic so I'll leave it at that. That's a story for another day...
Thanks for all the kind words everyone
and rachie, don't worry, there is enough baby makin juice to go around LOL
Mine is due in the 1st week of August I think, 3 months before my boy is going to be 4 years old, so a pretty good gap I think, although in hindsight maybe it could of been a bit smaller..
My missus desperately wants a girl lol, if we have a boy we'll probably end up trying for a 3rd, if it is a girl then she said that's the lot!! lol
It's not weird or unusual, believe me. Most of my friends feel exactly the same way :razz: and thought/think I'm nuts. But yeah, if I hadn't met the fella I did and been in the situation we were then I probably would never have entertained becoming a mother at 21. It's very young, but for me it was all a good fit and I packed a lot in to the preceeding years anyway. Seen a lot, done the boyfriends, fling, heartbreak thing and I knew this was different. Generally I would recommend waiting, but some people wait... and wait... and wait... for these perfect circumstances that are never EVER going to exist. We're lucky in that we've got a very nice financial situation and if we want to travel (though maybe not to Bolivia) we can do so and have been doing so. It's when they get to school age that we will have to really choose a city, country etc and stick to it. I'm dreading it.
As for looking after babies, you could do it! I feel nervous holding other people's babies and so I should, they're precious. I even found it a bit scary with my own babies at first, when I was on my own with them, really nervous and tentative but it's all very natural and your confidence grows. There's nothing in the world like holding your baby (er, babies). It's mind-blowing.
I'm broody as hell at the moment but I know it's a ridiculous idea. We've just about hit our stride with the two we've got, might try and live the [relatively] easy life for a while before considering a new addition :thumb:
I get broody sometimes but I'm content with just mulling over the excitement of having a baby of my own at some point in the future. I regularly have feelings that I'm infertile which I've talked about on here and that are probably really unfounded. It'll be amazing to become a mother one day but I know that studying is important so that I can err buy them loads of crap from the Early Learning Centre and all that marlarkey. :angel:
I used to imagine that I was infertile, I've no idea why. Am proof that those feelings are in no way self-fulfilling prophecies anyway!
Yeah I remember you replying to that thread. It was really helpful so thanks I spoke about it with my mum and it turned out she had the exact same feelings. Spooooky eh!
Me too! :hyper:
Congratulations Suzy and Cheese too, seem to have missed that news!
Thanks.I didnt make a big announcement tbh, cos at the time it was a bit of a shock, so soon after having Félix. Took a few months to get my head around it, and after that the moments kind of passed to announce it. I have mentioned it here and there though and am very happy about it now.
:yes:
I've noticed this as well.
I ekpt feeling like this last year. That was until I ahd to work with a baby who screamed all the time and always wanted attention.
I want to know as well.
I feel as if everyone in the world but me is having a baby - i found out another friend is having one with his girlfriend - plus pretty much everyone on the site seems to be pregant as well.
I had her yesterday afternoon at 4.15pm! She's called Ruby. I cant believe she's finally here!:yippe: She weighed 8lbs 4oz, just came from hosital this afternoon.
Heres a pic to make you all more broody! (I'll tell you my birth story and then you wont be as broody!;) But I'd do it all again for her
N more broody, me??? Helll Yes!!
I'm well impressed that your back here and posting pictures so quickly how exciting.
My friend has a gorgeous 3 month old baby and I love seeing him and watching her with him..but I don't want one
Dya think I'll get broody when I get older?
Quite possibly!
I always liked babies in a kind of 'as long as I can give them back/would like to have them in the future' kind of way, but I never really felt the pull of the ovaries until I was about 25. It's like my body noticed my age and feared I may never procreate without assistance.