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this waiting rule bollocks is just that - bollocks. Take it how it comes. Don' worry about looking lieke a 'cheap tart' - anybodfy that considers you that just for follwong you heart isn't worth knowing.
- say you meet him on a sat night. A short text on sunday is acceptble but a text convo shouldn't begin until tues or weds. Later and he's being rude. Earlier is bizarrely keen.
- obviously a phone call is better than a text convo as implies a little more urgency, but both are acceptable.
-always leave an hour's gap between his first text and your's - you're a very busy interesting person who has no time to answer the phone! after that leave 15 minutes, and after that i'd make it immediate, because you like him really.
- kissing is fine but i wouldn't go much further IF you're hoping more will come of it. if you're after a ONS then go for it - that's not being a cheap tart, that's being two consenting adults having fun. Doesn't make you look like date material necessarily, though.
Of course if you are very keen bugger the rules and call him ASAP
You wouldn't even find this in Cosmo the girls 'bible'. :yeees:
Anyways, judge it on whether he's text you first. But ultimately I'd say 'fuck it' and text the bugger.
Saying that I have been single for about 7 months now, so maybe you shouldn't listen to me. [/self pity] :razz:
I don't know where this is from, but it's stupid.
If I wrote you a text asking you to do something, and you let me wait for one hour, chances are that I already made other plans and you will be at home and miserable.
from the sounds of it I'd wait for him to make the next move. Does depend on the guy though - does he want to be chased, or would he prefer to do the chasing? Sounds like you've given him a couple of chances though, so I'd wait for him.
No.
Might be. Maybe not the chivalrous way, but when I'm fueled up I sometimes just look around for a bit of fun, etc. but can't be bothered in the end to really call back as I'm just not interested enough.
Girls do that too,.. so it's not a "boo, men are arses"-thing.
Best thing is to always hope for the best, but expect the least.
This sounds like rubbish to me.
This sounds pretty reasonable to me.
first part is reasonable. i'd send something like "hows your head?" and if theres a reply then follow up with a "i had fun, how about you?" etc. playing games by specifically waiting til later in the week is daft tho.
i'd be a bit apprehensive about a phone call, tbh.
pure bullshit. although if it's an instant reply, it's a bit odd.
i'd agree with this, it is slightly offputting (to me, at least) if the girl is too forward.
but whatever, there are no "rules". and even if there was, it's not like we all meet up and decide on what they are.
If somebody texts me I reply when I have thought of something to say back. If I don't like them I won't reply. I think waiting is a bit sad the only time I might wait is if I forget.
Then i think, shit shall i still send it or change it a bit and apologise for being a goon
It got so bad I spoke to a male friend of mine about it, and he said I was too nice, I let fellas get what they want and then let them come grovelling back 2 months later without any reply or reason for their rudeness.
Lads, like any of us I suppose can't be arsed with hassle, and if they feel they are being hassled then they will just give up and find something else to latch onto.
I'm not by any means saying you were hassling him, please dont think that with just 2 messages, but perhaps you scared him a bit, when he thought it would be a fuck buddy situation.
Maybe he even had things in his own life to deal with, perhaps he has just split with an ex, still has a gf many possibilities...
God this all makes me sound like a bitch, and I truly dont want to upset you hun.
However after that whole ramble, what you should take from it is it aint your fault, men are cocks!
AND is demanding that I go to pick him up :rolleyes:
You're telling me! I am sober as I have to DRIVE!!!!!!
Anyways, lets stop hi-jacking Cass' thread!
Spot on :thumb: