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So insecure
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I've been with my matey for 5 months now and things are fairly serious; I'm spending Christmas with him and his family but I can't help feeling so insecure.
I was uber stressed when I decided to leave uni and I've had a couple of other things going on which put a strain on our relationship so I'm scared he's going to turn around some day and say "Pfft, enough of this" and leave. I know this sounds crazy but today I felt very happy with him and about stuff, and in a way this makes me unhappy because I worry that when it goes wrong it'll hurt more.
I'm also always looking at other girls and thinking "She's so much prettier/slimmer/more intelligent than me; what's he doing with me?" Not good.
I know this is more a winge than a plea for help, I just needed to blurt it out somewhere. But if anyone does have anything helpful to say, please feel free to jot down your thoughts and such
I was uber stressed when I decided to leave uni and I've had a couple of other things going on which put a strain on our relationship so I'm scared he's going to turn around some day and say "Pfft, enough of this" and leave. I know this sounds crazy but today I felt very happy with him and about stuff, and in a way this makes me unhappy because I worry that when it goes wrong it'll hurt more.
I'm also always looking at other girls and thinking "She's so much prettier/slimmer/more intelligent than me; what's he doing with me?" Not good.
I know this is more a winge than a plea for help, I just needed to blurt it out somewhere. But if anyone does have anything helpful to say, please feel free to jot down your thoughts and such
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Insecurity is something that affects us all at one time or another and it can be pretty scary. The thing is, often our feelings relate to our own perception of ourselves rather than any behaviours our boyfriend or girlfriend has shown towards us - ultimately, this means there isn't a logical pattern to the thought process and it can tie us in knots!
It sounds like you could do with some help to bolster your self esteem.
You may find the NetDoctor test helpful
And remember, what Otter says is true. If you're feeling happy then the chances are he is too - it's very rare that someone is able to feel truly happy if their feelings aren't reciprocated.
Take care and have faith in yourself.