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new gf very hard to please in bedroom..help:(
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ok i havean amazing gf and we click so well its uncany people say we make an awesome couple etc but weve just started making love (both were virgins), for me its sexually fufilling every time i love her and enjoy it imensly, problem is she cant seem to cum:( she insits im fantastic and she enjoys it immensly and i can last as long as needed but after a while we usuall give up:( although i finish this is becoming unfurfilling as i ould love her to enjoy it as much as me, weve tried diff positions and she says she enjoys missionary te mosty but still no luck, any ideas or advice wuld be awesome:)
p.s. oral and fingering also prove no results despite obvious sighns that she is enjoying herself:(
p.s. oral and fingering also prove no results despite obvious sighns that she is enjoying herself:(
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It's very normal for women to have problems getting an orgasm during sex, especially if they aren't very experienced. Did you know that 75% of women say they don't orgasm during sex? So please don't worry that it's something you are doing wrong. A lot of the time it's simply that the woman may just not feel all that relaxed or needs to work out for herself what feels good and so on. If you say it's still not happening during oral, again it may be that you need to talk to her about what would make her feel more comfortable. Perhaps if you go away for a night in a relaxed/romantic setting, that would help? It may also be issues to do with her self esteem? For more tips, try reading this article. Also, I think if you both put pressure on yourselves for her to reach orgasm it could make things worse - try just focusing on enjoying the actual act/s and hopefully it will come in time (pardon the pun!) when you're not thinking about it.
Have you tried foreplay before making love? with my girlfriend I do the whole nine yards and you mght want to try different positions which might help increase the intensity. Do not stick to the same positions if it's not doing anything for her.
Oral don't work either? how about her g-spot? and try kissing and licking her inner thighs before you perform oral.
Best of luck!:thumb:
tis a fine point, will certainly light the way for you two with an answer to that one.
just bring some stuff into the sex and make it funner
yes she can cum by herself:( although she says it does take ages! ive tried everything and lots of positions she says shes happy and enjoys it v.mush anyway i just feel kinsda selfish:(
Have you tried stimulating her boobs/nipples? That usually sets me in good stead during sex.
Keep trying, i mean come on, theres worse things to do with your time right? hehe
Doing other things together like excersising helps. And before you get to it, do some bedroom excersises like naked sit-ups, stretches. Seeing her slim, naked body work out really helps. The same would be her to me.
Take your time, rushing it just to get to the shops will not work.
True, women go for much longer than men, so slow down as you are approaching, but keep pushing slowly, but rubbing her around the chest and back. Your libido will go, slightly, but won't finish, so if you keep doing this, it's good. Eventually you will feel her cum, then just keep pushing. Several times she's passed out after this (called Little Death).
It's tiring, though, so both being fit helps. Okay, she's really skinny, so she can go on longer than some others
Another way is her ontop so she can control speed, get her to lie right down on you to maximize clitoral stimulation.