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heya guys,
am new too dis here,
need a little help... riteo, im a 21 yr old man just luvin life, partying etc,etc well my friend use ta go wi a girl dat i liked before he went with her.... he used her alot! she is only 15 yrs old and i am txting her ALOT! I realli think am falling for her! i kno i shudn't but i cannot help it! i need ur advice on what to do. I haven't went with her or nothing, but ave been close! cheers guys/girls..!
am new too dis here,
need a little help... riteo, im a 21 yr old man just luvin life, partying etc,etc well my friend use ta go wi a girl dat i liked before he went with her.... he used her alot! she is only 15 yrs old and i am txting her ALOT! I realli think am falling for her! i kno i shudn't but i cannot help it! i need ur advice on what to do. I haven't went with her or nothing, but ave been close! cheers guys/girls..!
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shes not like a 15 yr old, personalitly wise!
shes alot more senisble than some of the
21-22 yr old girls i know...
You wont get many people saying that its ok.
If you were to have sex with her then its obviously illegal.#
If it was just a friend thing, then thats one thing, but as youve already come close to "being with her" as you say, then i think you need to be careful you dont fall for her any further or muck around with her feelings when shes at such a vulnerable age.
If she has been treated badly then it's possibly that what you see as attraction may be in part her reaching out for some support after being treated badly. Think about the fact you'll be breaking the law, and you'll be getting into a situation with someone who is vulnerable. Think about and then hopefully decide that this isn't a time when a relationship would be the right thing.
21 and you still don't know how to use proper English.
More importantly, though, she is vulnerable after being treated badly, and you are in danger of abusing her weakness for your own ends. There's nothing wrong with friendship, and if that grows into something more later then fair enough, but for now you should not even be thinking about making a move on her.
I'm fairly liberal about age gaps, even when one person is under the age of consent,but you are coming very close to exploiting a vulnerable child.
sorry
Oh change your tampon, love.
My cousin who I saw walk out of nappies is the same age as your girl, and if I thought a lad a few years younger than me (I'm 24) was having feelings 'like that' then I'd be really annoyed at it.
Nothing really that anyone could do about it as temptation will always be too much especially if it's reciprocated, but first and foremost it's illegal.
I'm always a firm believer in the mentality (and I do go on a bit like a broken record about this) if something feels genuinely right for you, then you do it. No hesitations whatsoever.
Given that you need to ask about it to someone else shows you don't feel comfortable mentioning this to your mates, especially since one of them has 'used' her? There are more cons than pros weighing to the reasons why this is a bad decision.
However, that aside, if you REALLY believe you can make it work then I'd wait until she was legal at least.
Think about it at least. You could get done in for this.
If you really like her wait til she's 16 cos at least then it's legal. If it all turns sour you could end up in a lot of trouble and unless it's true love it's not worth it.
Lol It's an easy mistake to make innit. Most 15 year olds look so much older than they really are!
Try explaining that to the judge when he sentences you to 30 years. Suzycreamcheese said it best, leave her alone and wait till she's 16 or 18 depending where you live.
he hasnt said he wants to shag her, just that he really likes her, he could date her and wait till she is 16 to have sex...there's no rule saying just because 2 people are together, they are at it...yeah he's been "close" but he hasnt done anything with her
and for all we know she could be 16 next month! I honestly dont see the age thing as a big deal
its her being vulnerable thats the worry, but if he's a nice guy, he wont take advantage of that
I agree with Ali.
The age thing isn't really too much of an issue. To me it isn't anyway as I got together with my boyfriend when I was 15 and he was 20 and we are still together now. So it can work.
As Ali said it's her vulnerability which is concerning. If he's willing to take his time and give this girl the love she needs and her confidence back then I see no problem with him taking things further and making his feelings known.
I say good luck to you but be careful.