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Fancying a mate's sister
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So what happens if you fancy your mates sister? Do you act on it or not?
Help please! lol
Help please! lol
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Just a quick question....is he bigger than you? Could you outrun him?
Go for it.
"Sort of" mate's sister = fair game for a relationship.
In neither instance should you have any kind of casual relationship with her. Nor should you ever treat her badly, in any way. It would be difficult for you, him and her in the future and do you really want to ruin a friendship because of something like that?
Indrid, it's definately not a "I think you're super hot" thing, I just think she's very pretty and we get along really well.
And actually, I don't get this whole "mate's sister" thing at all. I mean, let's use some logic here.
- I assume that if someone is your mate, he must be someone that you think is a good guy.
- I also assume that you'd want your sister to be with a good guy.
So, unless one of my assumptions is wrong, nobody should have a problem with this kind of thing...being an older brother
I would say fuckin leave well alone
Especially the fact you work together
I suppose it's like licking a tramp covered in chocolate it might be nice, but deep down it feels wrong.
Soo i'd say no not for now - but maybe when you get back.........
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If two people ought to be togther, allow them to be together - best mate or not!
Obviously, it would be an unwritten rule not to fuck her about but at least give them the chance for happiness.
This 'big brother', 'protective' stuff is kinda neanderthal. Girls can look after themselves these days - and rightly so.
I've had things going on with my brothers' mates before and they have HATED it, but there was nothing they could do about it anyway. It's if and when the shit hits the fan that the problems start, really...
If both parties are interested then that's their business - unless the brother is a fucking massive bruiser then I'd go for it
If one of my mates talks about shagging some girl up the arse last weekend or is constantly gossing about fit girls with you then you're not going to want them going out with your sister are you??
When it's someone you don't know, ignorance is bliss!
Plus then you have the situation where if you argue with your mate or sister, it causes a problem in the OTHER relationship.
Both of these situations I have been in from EXPERIENCE, not just talking shit about neanderthals etc
And believe it or not, sometimes other people, including girls DO need to be looked after..
Infact, I wish I'd giving a few other select ex's of my sisters a hiding instead of trying to be all nice about it and I would of saved a few tears in the family lol.
Yeah this is what I was thinking.
Of course it's not shit. For most of your young life, you probably hated her (as young siblings often do) but suddenly now that she can pick and choose the guys she likes, you don't want her to go out with your best mate?
And if you best friend is such a cunt, maybe you ought to re-evaluate the quality of the friends that you hang out with. :P
And yes, sometimes girls DO need looking after - but some blanket ban on them seeing your best mate is just silly.
And as long as he hasn't fucked her around and their separation is amicable, what's the problem? If my sister got badly fucked about or beaten up by her boyfriend, any guy would would be in the firing line for their treatment of her - not just a best mate.
The point I am trying to make is that your best mate and your sister may be IDEALLY suited - but your unnecessary overprotection may deny her that happiness.
As Briggi indicated, they should just go for it. And if he is your best mate, then he ought to be the quality of person who would know that he can't afford to fuck her about ...
Of course it's not shit. For most of your young life, you probably hated her (as young siblings often do) but suddenly now that she can pick and choose the guys she likes, you don't want her to go out with your best mate?
And if you best friend is such a cunt, maybe you ought to re-evaluate the quality of the friends that you hang out with.
And yes, sometimes girls DO need looking after - but some blanket ban on them seeing your best mate is just silly.
And as long as he hasn't fucked her around and their separation is amicable, what's the problem? If my sister got badly fucked about or beaten up by her boyfriend, any guy would would be in the firing line for their treatment of her - not just a best mate.
The point I am trying to make is that your best mate and your sister may be IDEALLY suited - but your unnecessary overprotection may deny her that happiness.
As Briggi indicated, they should just go for it. And if he is your best mate, then he ought to be the quality of person who would know that he can't afford to fuck her about ...