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Should I Go On Date

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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I had an abortion 6 weeks ago and although my b/f said he'd be there for me after it and he'd look after me etc, we broke up a week after it when i caught him kissing my best friend :shocking: The last few weeks have been really hard and i've been doing my best to try and get over it all and move on, which is hard because we still live together and will do for the next few weeks.

Anyway i went out on sat and met someone new and he seems really nice and has asked me to go out on date with him, i really want to cause he seems so nice but half of me is terrified, i was with my ex 2 years and im scared to start anything new or get close to anyone after all my ex put me through..

I know its stupid but although half of me hates my ex for what way he treated me but i cant help still having feelings for him, and although i need to move on im really not sure if this is the best time to start anything with someone new. any advice would be appreciated..

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's normal to feel nervous after being with one guy for so long.

    But why not give this guy a chance? You may have a nice time and it could take your mind off your ex. You don't have to have a serious relationship, you could just enjoy the date and see what happens.

    Of course you still have feelings for your ex despite everything, only time will fade that.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think you should go, but dont put any pressure on yourself, see what happens, dont necessarily think it has to go anywhere, just try and enjoy some time with someone paying you a bit of much deserved attention.
    I know its hard once youve been metaphorically shat on, to trust that not everyone will do the same, and tbh, you dont know if this guy will or wont - you certainly wont know unless you give it a go.

    I hope it goes well for you.

    Just remember - its only a date.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Go for it. Like people above have said, it's just a date. It doesn't have to go anywhere, just have fun. Then if you wanna see him again, you can and if you don't want to, then you don't have to. Enjoy the attention. And many people will tell you otherwise, but I've always believed that there shouldn't be some compulsory 'single' period after you've broken up with someone - I think meeting and having fun with other people is infact one of the best ways to move on and prove to yourself there's other people out there. And it doesn't have to go anywhere, but if this guy is a nice guy, who knows, you might find yourself getting over your not so nice ex quicker than you think...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    angelgirl wrote: »
    any advice would be appreciated..

    I hope that you have dumped the 'best' friend too. :rolleyes:

    Men can be skanky but the amount of times I have read about how a girl's 'best friend' has copped off with her boyfriend, amazes me.

    Anyway, yes! Have that date! It will be a plesant distraction and slowly edge you back into socialising again. :thumb:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Go on the date, it doesn't have to be anything heavy, just have some fun and see where things go.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Go for it - like everyone else has said, it's only a date, just relax and enjoy yourself, and see what happens from there :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Cheers for all your advice, ive arranged to go out with him tomorrow night, and tbh i am really terrified, maybe its because its been a while since i've been single but i gona go and see what happens, after all its only a date.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    angelgirl wrote: »
    Cheers for all your advice, ive arranged to go out with him tomorrow night, and tbh i am really terrified, maybe its because its been a while since i've been single but i gona go and see what happens, after all its only a date.

    Good for you. Don't worry about being terrified, it's perfectly natural if you've not been in the 'game' for a while, plus you've had some tough times lately. If he's a nice guy, I'm sure he'll pick up on the fact that you're nervous and try his best to put you at ease. Just try and relax and enjoy yourself... :thumb:
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