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Hello there everyone. I’m dreading the reaction to what I’m about to say, but here goes.
Way back in mid-September, I was starting out university life in Manchester. Some of you have noticed that I’ve been away from the boards since then. I’ve just been getting on with things. You’ll be ecstatic/glad/indifferent/horrified (please delete as applicable) to discover I haven’t forgotten about TheSite. Also, despite the countless scare stories I’d heard before setting foot there, I’ve not been mugged either. (Mind you, half of Manchester’s homeless population seems to have asked me for money. They’re usually to be found next to cash machines at night, the crafty sods. And just about every weekend, I’ve noticed into homeless drunks begging me for change on Oxford Road. They always bloody ask me. Why? Do the buggers see pound signs printed on my forehead or something? And why is it they’re only on Oxford Road at the weekend? I never see them on weekdays. Is there something they’re not telling us?)
So anyway, I’ve got to tell TheSite about a decision I’ve reached. Some things have gone very well since I started. Firstly, isn’t Manchester brilliant? I’ve fallen in love with the place. I think this city is fantastic, and easily the best UK city I’ve visited. As someone who’s worked on a holiday park, I’ve always liked Mancunians, but I was still surprised. To a country bumpkin like me, the city was a real eye-opener. It’s no mystery why the place is so popular with students. It’s definitely the right place for me. Secondly, I’m surprised by just how good MMU actually is. I must admit I was having doubts about the quality of the university when I arrived, but some “vigorous” “debate” with some lecturers convinced me otherwise. Thirdly, I’ve met quite a few good people here, and I’ve liked everyone I’ve met. Except my own flatmates, who are total wankers, but I digress. Oh, and one person who regularly calls me thinks I’m developing a Mancunian accent. Is that good? You can judge!
However... not everything has gone so well. Unfortunately, not everything has gone well. For a couple of reasons, my start at university proved to be far from smooth. For example, my ID card wasn’t ready on time, meaning I wasn’t allowed entry to most Freshers events. By the end of the second week, everything was going quite nicely. During this month, several things have happened in my private life, which have proved very difficult to deal with. One event was the sudden death of a very close friend four weeks ago. That has hit me especially badly. There are also other ongoing events, which I’m not prepared to discuss. With all this going on, it’s been seriously affecting my ability to concentrate on my studies. I’ve spoken to the university about this in detail, and we’ve come to a mutual agreement it would be best for me to defer my place there. In other words, restart at MMU next year. Therefore, I’ve now gone home for the time being.
It’s been an incredibly difficult decision to take. The friend who died was extremely proud to see me going to university, for example. By reaching this decision, I feel I’m letting him down, in a sense. I’m well aware of the consequences of my decision, least of all financially, but it’s been made now. The plan now, aside from dealing with the aforementioned problems, is to sign on and look for a job. I’ll take almost anything, as I need the money. Besides, whatever I do attempt in the future, I’m going to need money to do it. It’s far from an ideal situation, but I have to make the best of it.
I know I’ll be back at MMU next year – that much is for certain. My short time there has left me filled with ideas about what I’m going to do with my future, some of which may surprise you! I know there are people (and probably more of them now) who think I can’t do it. Excellent – that just spurs me on more, even though I sometimes worry I’ll be picking up my pension book on graduation day too. I’m going to get that degree, one way or another. Feel free to comment/question/criticise/flame/the usual routine. Also, you can ask questions, but just bear in mind I’m not prepared to reveal everything about the circumstances at the moment.
Thank you. xx
Way back in mid-September, I was starting out university life in Manchester. Some of you have noticed that I’ve been away from the boards since then. I’ve just been getting on with things. You’ll be ecstatic/glad/indifferent/horrified (please delete as applicable) to discover I haven’t forgotten about TheSite. Also, despite the countless scare stories I’d heard before setting foot there, I’ve not been mugged either. (Mind you, half of Manchester’s homeless population seems to have asked me for money. They’re usually to be found next to cash machines at night, the crafty sods. And just about every weekend, I’ve noticed into homeless drunks begging me for change on Oxford Road. They always bloody ask me. Why? Do the buggers see pound signs printed on my forehead or something? And why is it they’re only on Oxford Road at the weekend? I never see them on weekdays. Is there something they’re not telling us?)
So anyway, I’ve got to tell TheSite about a decision I’ve reached. Some things have gone very well since I started. Firstly, isn’t Manchester brilliant? I’ve fallen in love with the place. I think this city is fantastic, and easily the best UK city I’ve visited. As someone who’s worked on a holiday park, I’ve always liked Mancunians, but I was still surprised. To a country bumpkin like me, the city was a real eye-opener. It’s no mystery why the place is so popular with students. It’s definitely the right place for me. Secondly, I’m surprised by just how good MMU actually is. I must admit I was having doubts about the quality of the university when I arrived, but some “vigorous” “debate” with some lecturers convinced me otherwise. Thirdly, I’ve met quite a few good people here, and I’ve liked everyone I’ve met. Except my own flatmates, who are total wankers, but I digress. Oh, and one person who regularly calls me thinks I’m developing a Mancunian accent. Is that good? You can judge!
However... not everything has gone so well. Unfortunately, not everything has gone well. For a couple of reasons, my start at university proved to be far from smooth. For example, my ID card wasn’t ready on time, meaning I wasn’t allowed entry to most Freshers events. By the end of the second week, everything was going quite nicely. During this month, several things have happened in my private life, which have proved very difficult to deal with. One event was the sudden death of a very close friend four weeks ago. That has hit me especially badly. There are also other ongoing events, which I’m not prepared to discuss. With all this going on, it’s been seriously affecting my ability to concentrate on my studies. I’ve spoken to the university about this in detail, and we’ve come to a mutual agreement it would be best for me to defer my place there. In other words, restart at MMU next year. Therefore, I’ve now gone home for the time being.
It’s been an incredibly difficult decision to take. The friend who died was extremely proud to see me going to university, for example. By reaching this decision, I feel I’m letting him down, in a sense. I’m well aware of the consequences of my decision, least of all financially, but it’s been made now. The plan now, aside from dealing with the aforementioned problems, is to sign on and look for a job. I’ll take almost anything, as I need the money. Besides, whatever I do attempt in the future, I’m going to need money to do it. It’s far from an ideal situation, but I have to make the best of it.
I know I’ll be back at MMU next year – that much is for certain. My short time there has left me filled with ideas about what I’m going to do with my future, some of which may surprise you! I know there are people (and probably more of them now) who think I can’t do it. Excellent – that just spurs me on more, even though I sometimes worry I’ll be picking up my pension book on graduation day too. I’m going to get that degree, one way or another. Feel free to comment/question/criticise/flame/the usual routine. Also, you can ask questions, but just bear in mind I’m not prepared to reveal everything about the circumstances at the moment.
Thank you. xx
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I don't know about the University of Manchester, as I was at the Manchester Metropolitan University. However, my sister did apply for Manc Uni, said she was impressed by what she saw, but decided against in the end. Fancied being closer to home.
Take it easy in the meantime, and catch some sun :cool:
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Manchester is a fantastic city to live in, isn't it
By all means sign on and look for a job on the any job will do front, but also have a go at looking for something more specific.
You said that your time in Manchester has given you new ideas/aspirations, so while the priority is any job will do, keep looking for something relevent that will gain you skills for the future too.
Maybe a year out is what you need.
You will eventually get your degree I am sure, but do me a favour, and go and get a different job, like a 9 to 5 kinda thing, and get some decent money behind you before 3rd time lucky!