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So, a girl tells me she may have HIV.
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A couple of weeks back i slept with a girl (protected) and she gavee me oral (unprotected). She now tells me she may have HIV. In a way im sorta worried, i mean it's something that can screw up your life. In another im not so worried because we had protected sex. Glad i did, especially as she didn't want to use a condom.
I'm gona go visit the clinic soon but reading up on it is confusing. Some places say they can't do a test till 12 weeks have passed and others say there are home tests that can be done.
Just wanted some reassurance/advice etc. Duno whether to be really worried or not if im honest.
Thanks.
I'm gona go visit the clinic soon but reading up on it is confusing. Some places say they can't do a test till 12 weeks have passed and others say there are home tests that can be done.
Just wanted some reassurance/advice etc. Duno whether to be really worried or not if im honest.
Thanks.
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They will be able to tell you all you need to know about HIV risks and they can do the test for you at the appropriate time.
Why does your lady friend think she has HIV? Does the guy she was with before have it?
Its a good idea to get screened for the various STIs if youre ever concerned but as you say you used protection so you *should* be ok - i believe there is some risk of contracting stuff through unprotected oral sex.
Here's some info from the Avert website which should help clarify things:
Here's the link if you'd like to read more - http://www.avert.org/testing.htm
Take care x
I don't know, she seems to be hiding stuff and lying and making stuff up. It's very annoying and making me feel worse. I don't know the full story, apparently she slept with a guy who is bi. He has told her he doesn't have HIV but for some reason she thinks he may do and is lying.
Shes also slept with another guy since that one who said he developed a flu after having sex with her. Although he said it was as soon as he had sex with her, whilst the websites say if you do develop flu like symptons it's not for many weeks after.
It's all very annoying and confusing and just makes me angry and upset.
When I had a test they advised me that if I'd done anything in the previous three months that put me at risk then it may be necessary to re-test at a later date to be sure.
The HIV test is a very simple blood test, you don't have to undress for it or anythng although you might want to get tested for other STIs at the same time.
Good luck
So she may not have HIV, and probably doesn't, but may have something, anything, just because shes had sex with more than 1 guy.
It looks like he has made her paranoid, telling her she may have something, for no other reason than paranoir, it's not based on fact of any kind.
It sorta makes me feel better, it also makes me think he's way too paranoid and it also makes me think it's some kind of sick joke. I hope it is some kinda sick joke.
*Edit* Her ex bf is now getting very angry at me texting him now because im trying to work out what is going on exactly. But it does seem like he is creating paranoir out of nothing. She did say he was a bit obsessive with her and werid, but i don't know him so can't comment.
This is all getting very confusing though, i wish people would just be straight and honest instead of playing these werid games. Don't worry, i will get tested, i'm not too worried, but i duno, it's just strange.
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Add to that the 100-1 chance of a condom not working (a guess btw) and the odds you caught it even if you were certain she had it would be between 30000-1 and 100000-1. And given the fact that she may or may not have HIV, the chances are practically nothing. Never any harm in getting tested though. But apparently it takes a minimum of 4 weeks to show up.
The condoms didn't break, i always check them as the whole pregnancy thing bothers me too.
Bset of luck, always best to go see a doctor if you're concerned about your health though - that's what they get paid for!
Doesn't mean you shouldn't get tested though. Other less potentially fatal STD's are more like a 1 in 10 chance.
A good lad last year at uni offered to take us all down there with him 'as a laugh' obviously round this age everyone is too sheepish to go on their own. But I bet my life if in 5 years time you've got something you wish you'd have gone for the bloody healthcheck...
I think its quite unlikely that prophylactic antivirals would be given in this scenario - it sounds quite low risk (noone has actually tested HIV pos, it was protected sex and it happened at least 3 days ago).
hopfully you'll be fine, i don't think you can easily catch it during oral & as she thinks she may i think she just is worried with no evidence...
i was told by the GUM clinic you have to wait 3 months before being tested for HIV as it doesnt show up straight away in your blood or somthing
go to your nearest clinic or doctor to find out
good luck x