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Inapropriate questions?
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Last night i was talking to a friends bf on msn. I was moaning about my bad day and how i got called for being ginger. He said there's a fetish for girls with red hair. I said there's probably a fetish for everything so it's nothing really. Then he said i bet you've got one to two. He then persued the subject and kept trying to get me to tell him. He was telling me his and said it's nothing to be ashamed of and not to be embarrassed. I kept telling him i'm not ashamed of anything, it's just private and it's between me and my bf. Then he said he had a guess but wouldnt tell me. He said he's not being a perv he just finds it interesting to know this stuff about people (same thing really). Eventually i got freaked out and left.
Now i'm really confused, i dunno what to do? Should i tell my friend? I've told my bf (he's a work so i'm waiting to hear back from him) and another friend who says to tell her. I feel really guilty and i'm afraid if i tell her i'll cause trouble. I don't know if he's asked other people. Am i over reacting or should i do something? Feel free to PM me too.
Now i'm really confused, i dunno what to do? Should i tell my friend? I've told my bf (he's a work so i'm waiting to hear back from him) and another friend who says to tell her. I feel really guilty and i'm afraid if i tell her i'll cause trouble. I don't know if he's asked other people. Am i over reacting or should i do something? Feel free to PM me too.
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Just leave it is my thoughts on this - and if it happens again, then tell your other half and go from there.
Am I being really slow here having just woken up.. what does that mean??
I've had a male friend ask an inapropriate question before and I just shouted at him and told him not to be such a perv. Seemed to work lol. He just apologised and said he didn't mean it to sound pervy and that was the end of it.
I had to read it a couple of times myself - but in the context of the paragraph it sounds like he was saying: "I bet you've got one or two festishes."
Oh I see. I've re-read the whole thing now and it seems I missed the point about it being a friends boyfriend. I wouldn't tell my friend, I would have just let her boyfriend know that it is unacceptable.
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I don't think it's quite bad enough to risk ruining a relationship.... but I would definately let him know that he can't ask those sorts of questions.
i'd make it quite clear to him that it's him pestering you bout asking it, not him just generally asking, i wouldn't find it offensive if someone asked if I had any fettishes.
He's hinted at this kind of thing before, by bringing up the topic and telling me his fetishes, to wean it out of me. But i've always ignored him. I need to speak to him again and also speak to my boyfriend properly (who is not impressed and doesn't even like the guy anyway). I really don't know what to make of it.
he didnt tell you he had a fetish for redheaded dancers by any chance lol?
no that wasn't his fetish lol, well not the one he told me anyway. He knows full well i don't like people nosying in my private life and that i hate perving. I've got friends saying i should tell her but i dunno. Need to do more talking.
Can you just avoid him?
delete him from your msn for a start
hmmm tell her, if everyone else knows, she will know eventually then be pissed for you keeping it from her
btw Ballerina, what are your fettishes
Is your computer set to save msn conversations? If so you can prove it if you accuses you of lying.