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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
So, I finally got into a relationship - with a lovely guy!
It seems to have lasted 3 weeks and now, no answer to texts or calls (only of each mind!). Should I do nothing now, walk away?
I have been thinking of sending an email in a few days but now I'm not sure. Everything was great, I just have No Idea what I have done wrong.

Any words of advice?

Thanks

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well.. are you sure you were in a relationship or could he have seen it differently, like just casual?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How long has it been without him responding to your messages ?

    If its only been a day, maybe he has been busy, left his phone at home or his battery is dead.

    If its longer, then it might just be one of those things where he doesn't want to see you again but is too cowardly to actually tell you where you stand.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well he referred to it as a relationship.
    It has been five days now.

    is an email at any point appropriate.

    i feel terrible, i just don't know what i have done..
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Posy wrote: »
    Well he referred to it as a relationship.
    It has been five days now.

    is an email at any point appropriate.

    i feel terrible, i just don't know what i have done..

    Try not to beat yourself up about it. You probably haven't done anything wrong! Perhaps he never viewed it as serious. If he's dumped you by ignoring you then be glad you're rid of him - the guy obviously doesn't have any balls!! Tosser.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you only tried ringing him once, try again maybe?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Id give up.
    Its happened to me in the past.
    Lost my virginity to the bastard then he fucked off two days later and finally when he talked to me said 'i dont want a gf right now'
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you've only contacted him thru cellphone, try to ring him on landline, msn etc... If that doesn't work within some time either, I'd regard him as "out of the picture", at least for now. Then the ball is on his side of the court.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    kate- wrote: »
    Id give up.
    Its happened to me in the past.
    Lost my virginity to the bastard then he fucked off two days later and finally when he talked to me said 'i dont want a gf right now'

    If you tried ringing once, and one text, it might be premature just giving up. Presumably they were on the same day, could be possible his phone was off, or he forgot to text back.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ShyBoy wrote: »
    If you tried ringing once, and one text, it might be premature just giving up. Presumably they were on the same day, could be possible his phone was off, or he forgot to text back.

    You'd think that if you were in a relationship that the other party would get back to you at some point or let you know what's up. I personally wouldn't view that kind of behaviour kindly if I had been led to believe I had entered a relationship.

    I've gone through similar things, and am sort of dealing with a no-contact thing right now. Except we were not in any kind of relationship so I realise I'm not owed anything. It sucks not to hear anything, even a bastardly rejection is better than silence, but you have got to grab the reins and decide where to draw the line.

    Try not to initiate contact. You've tried already and the ball's in his court. Of course, you should try your very best not to think about it or be waiting in particular. If he's spineless then that's his problem. If he gets back to you he'll probably have an excuse or even a reason and you'll just deal with it IF it happens.

    Take care, and don't beat yourself up about it!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi there, i am sorry you have to go through this, waiting can be a very hard and frustrating thing to do, especially if it is sudden.

    Perhaps it is time to see this as a type of break/break up and go out and socialise, see your friends, keep busy, and eventually you might hear from him.If you dont, perhaps at this point you could as you say emailing him and find out!

    Try not to let him rule your days and enjoy yourself!

    Good luck xxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Completely leave it. Wouldn't waste your time on someone who doesn't have the decency to tell you he's not interested.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I eventualy sent a text demanding an explanation.
    He eventaully rang confessing that he's not over his ex.
    I appreciate the eventual honesty, am gutted but feel better.

    But people - be honest, don't ever make anyone go through this!!

    Thanks for the kind words.....
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Glad you were able to get a closure like this. Looks like he took the spineless route after all. Sucks, but now you can move on more easily.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Some people give us guys a bad name! Were not all like this you know :) so dont let it all hold you back in the future.
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