If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
I love you? Rly need advice plz
Former Member
Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hello. First post!
I need a little advice. I have been in a relationship with someone for 7 months now, and all is going well (touch wood). However, every so often I think about something I said to them 2 months ago, and it upsets me. I have pushed it to the back of my mind, but now I rly feel as though I have to get it off my chest otherwise I might explode.
Ok, so heres what happened. I decided (2 months ago), after plucking up the courage, to say that - "I Love you". I have been with people in the past, but never felt as strongly as I do about this person. I am not the type to say such things unless I rly rly mean it, which only makes there reply so much more hurtful. They responded (after a short pause), by saying - "dont say things you dont mean. Its to soon". This rly threw me, and upset me deeply. I was considering leaving them, but I like them so much I simply couldnt.
What does it generally mean when someone says that? I am not sure what to do next? Say it again and see what happens? Keep it inside until I explode? Or something else?
Any advice is appreciated.
Thank you
(
I need a little advice. I have been in a relationship with someone for 7 months now, and all is going well (touch wood). However, every so often I think about something I said to them 2 months ago, and it upsets me. I have pushed it to the back of my mind, but now I rly feel as though I have to get it off my chest otherwise I might explode.
Ok, so heres what happened. I decided (2 months ago), after plucking up the courage, to say that - "I Love you". I have been with people in the past, but never felt as strongly as I do about this person. I am not the type to say such things unless I rly rly mean it, which only makes there reply so much more hurtful. They responded (after a short pause), by saying - "dont say things you dont mean. Its to soon". This rly threw me, and upset me deeply. I was considering leaving them, but I like them so much I simply couldnt.
What does it generally mean when someone says that? I am not sure what to do next? Say it again and see what happens? Keep it inside until I explode? Or something else?
Any advice is appreciated.
Thank you
(
0
Comments
She, personally, has not fallen in love with you yet and believes you can't fall in love within that timescale, but doesn't realise that some people do - and indeed you have. Maybe she thought you were just saying it to get into her knickers.
I wouldn't repeat it just yet - save yourself the hurt and wait until she says it to you
Did you try and reassure her, then, that you did mean it after she replied? Certainly tell her that the response hurt you, I'm sure she didn't mean to, but it might make her think about being more tactful with words in future.
If she feels she cant say she loves you yet thats not the end of the world, its just different for different people.
:yes: you might find this article on saying I love you helpful - especially the section on
Keep an open mind about their response:
Personally I'd give it a little while and then try telling her again. If you get a similar response you can then discuss it, but I wouldn't drag up the issues from last time with no apparent provocation.
Obviously if she tells you first, woohoo. But if you still get a negative response don't go chucking a girl you really like because of it. It's still a relatively young relationship, after all:)
How can you hate them? They're the most powerful words you can say, well apart from 'I hate you'.
That's probably why I hate them. Too much power - especially if used 'incorrectly'.
They're often said too lightly, or just to take advantage.
Only when used with the person/peoples actually meaning it do I find them acceptable.
I soooo agree
It makes me all warm and fuzzy when people agree ;)
Absolutely.
It's annoying that "I love you" is the strongest thing I can say to show how I feel, when it's been so overused that it almost means nothing now.