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What was your first love like?
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What was your first love like? And if you've had it, how did it affect your future relationships?
I ask cause I'm back home this week on holiday (first time I've been properly home for more than a few days in like six years
) and before I left six years ago, I had a six month thing with this girl. We were both really young and it was a puppy love thing and we split up cause she went off with the boy with the car and all that stuff. Then I went off to uni, the relationship affected me for a bit then I was fine, got over it and moved on.
Now I'm back for the week, and for some reason the memories have flooded back big stylee. I find myself comparing all the relationships I've had to the one with her back in 2001. Like I say I've no desire to get back with her or anything (been nattering to her on Bebo and she's 8 months pregnant!) but I can honestly say at no point during any of my relationships since her have I ever been as happy as I was when I was with her. It's probably the only thing I've ever had with anyone that was a great relationship and wasn't really going wrong. I say all that as someone who hasn't any current hang-ups from that or any other relationships at the mo.
Anyway, I'm going back down the road this weekend to where I normally live and there is somebody I've been flirting with and might be a future girlfriend-y type person
Thing is as I type I'm feeling so overly sentimental about 2001 it isn't even funny.
Do these things normally pass? Don't really want to be starting something new and constantly trying to compare it to something in the past, cause that'll fuck anything up.
Cheers :thumb:
I ask cause I'm back home this week on holiday (first time I've been properly home for more than a few days in like six years
) and before I left six years ago, I had a six month thing with this girl. We were both really young and it was a puppy love thing and we split up cause she went off with the boy with the car and all that stuff. Then I went off to uni, the relationship affected me for a bit then I was fine, got over it and moved on.Now I'm back for the week, and for some reason the memories have flooded back big stylee. I find myself comparing all the relationships I've had to the one with her back in 2001. Like I say I've no desire to get back with her or anything (been nattering to her on Bebo and she's 8 months pregnant!) but I can honestly say at no point during any of my relationships since her have I ever been as happy as I was when I was with her. It's probably the only thing I've ever had with anyone that was a great relationship and wasn't really going wrong. I say all that as someone who hasn't any current hang-ups from that or any other relationships at the mo.
Anyway, I'm going back down the road this weekend to where I normally live and there is somebody I've been flirting with and might be a future girlfriend-y type person
Thing is as I type I'm feeling so overly sentimental about 2001 it isn't even funny.Do these things normally pass? Don't really want to be starting something new and constantly trying to compare it to something in the past, cause that'll fuck anything up.
Cheers :thumb:
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That doesn;t mean that I regret not being with her anymore, more that in my maturity I realise that I fucked up something which had potential.
That said, I wouldn't change my life now.
My first love, well, now I'd describe her as a heartless succubus of a woman but at the time it was wild, crazy, devoid of reason or sense but hey, that's love for you.
That's how I'd deal with it, and I reckon your first love isn't going to compare to anything you'll get in future, but it's up to you how you let that go. But don't let it get in the way of right now, things in the past stay in the past. Take a tip out from The Lion King.
Just let the good summertimes flow.
You're right, I do tend to find it hard to let things stay in the past.
But aye, Hakuna Matata and all that jazz I suppose :thumb:
Damn skippy.
But having said that I had the craziest butterflies in my stomach whenever I saw him, and even now hold him in such a high regard, when in all honesty he was a bit of a prat. He's engaged to my best friend from middle school and I'm surprisingly bitter about it...
I hope he wasn't my first love - I'm hoping it's yet to come.
He actually came down to stay the night a couple of years ago en-route to somewhere else... 5 years had passed, we had both changed but we still got on well. He was pleased to see where I had got to in life, and vice versa... he met my husband (who was very good about it) and we had a bottle of wine and a laugh...
There was no doubt he was my first love, but our relationship is very much in the past and although when I remember that time, it is with very fond memories... I know that my future is much more important!
... until i cheated on him at a party and fucked off with a 19 year old with a car.
i got over my first love like that *clicks fingers* but ive had a tough time since trying to get over people even though i dont show it. I felt bad after how i treated my first love but that hasnt stopped me from doing the same to other boys.
i think it took him a while to move on from me because he took it all quite hard and we did try being mates after but he would allways bring it up and get really touchy and angry about it and stuff.
The first year was great, we were always together, we both lost our virginities to eachother and all that malarkey.
The second year, I started falling out of love, getting bored and looking for new things... however I stayed with her for the sake of it, because I didn't know anything else and because I was scared of hurting her and being on my own.
I shouldn't have let that second year drag on, because it was full of arguments, mainly because I didn't feel the same anymore.
Eventually another girl came along who showed great interest in me, and in a wave of excitement I broke up with my first love to be with this new girl. It was very sudden and cruel, but I paid for it with this new girl... Karma and all that.
:yes: karma is a bitch
I think it has affected my future relationships in that I trust people less. But I think that would have happened if anyone had cheated on me, not just my first love. I'm also still friends with him, which is difficult at times.
Which may make me sound bitter, but I'm not.