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i'm too shy
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I've always been shy.
At the beginning of this year I was becoming to get more confident, causing me to be less shy and all round louder I guess.
But lately I've been becoming even more shyer, to the extent I can't talk to my new friends properly. Most of the people I used to be friends with don't talk to me much anymore, meaning I can't really open up and be myself like I used to.
I still have a couple of people I can be myself with, as well as family. But how can I come out of my shell?
I'm scared of what people will think of me, when I really shouldn't. I need to talk more and be myself.
Help me. It's tearing me up.
At the beginning of this year I was becoming to get more confident, causing me to be less shy and all round louder I guess.
But lately I've been becoming even more shyer, to the extent I can't talk to my new friends properly. Most of the people I used to be friends with don't talk to me much anymore, meaning I can't really open up and be myself like I used to.
I still have a couple of people I can be myself with, as well as family. But how can I come out of my shell?
I'm scared of what people will think of me, when I really shouldn't. I need to talk more and be myself.
Help me. It's tearing me up.
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If I were you I'd get one of my really good friends who you feel you can relax with to take you out- go somewhere new where there'll be new people.
Why do you think it is that you're shy? Do you have low self esteem. or is it more of a personality thing?
You are a good person, it is their priviledge to have you as a friend. Have that mindset and you will find that confidence grows...
Tink - do you find after a while you're alright after meeting new people for the first time or not?
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I talk to them abit more but I still find myself holding back.
yeppppp.
there's like theres something holding my back, i can feel it when i'm with people. i can't explain it.
A couple of things you can try is to build a relationship with people on a more 1 on 1 level, talk to them about regular stuff, music, boys and you will find that you have lots in common or perhaps when you get that feeling where you are holding back to just say whatever is in your head, just throw it out there and take a risk and ya know what if they laugh they laugh if they dont and they dont find what your saying funny/interesting perhaps they are just not your sort of people. God i have been in loads of situations where i have said something and everybody has just given me that blank look!! lol
You just need to go for it, what do you have to lose? xx
I’m a new moderator on the boards, and have just seen your post. I’m sorry to hear you’re finding things a bit tricky at the moment – it’s always tough when you feel like you can’t be yourself, particularly around your friends. It’s important to remember that, although it might seem like everyone around you is brimming with confidence, more often than not they’re probably feeling insecure and shy sometimes too.
As Dobbin suggests, getting out and about and meeting new people with mates you feel comfortable with should help. You might also find it helpful to take a look at our factsheet on shyness which gives hints and tips on how to go about boosting your confidence.
Remember, you can always be yourself here.
Take care,
S x
I think that's an approach which can be extended outside the workplace as well. *nearly has heart attack* Waah! Not another one. At this rate, there'll be more moderators than users on the boards...