If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Madddddd
Former Member
Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in General Chat
OK I am mad. Need to write it down to get my angryness out! :mad:
I was meant to be going out tonight with some mates like normal on a Friday night. Whilst I was in the shower this morning my mum looked through my messages on my phone (reason no 1 for being mad) and then said you arent going out this weekend (reason no 2 for being mad). I was like urm why? I really did not know what I had done wrong. So she started going on about how she has read the messages from "andy" on my phone and that I am not going to see him tonight. I explained that I wasnt planning on seeing andy tonight just my friends. She said she had read a message saying he would see me tomorrow night. She has got it allllll wrrronggg. He was meant to be coming out with us tonight but I wasnt going to just see him. She hasnt been like this for a while, she is getting all control-freakish on me again. I thought she had stopped this for a short while. I'm not even seeing this andy, he is just a lad I met and I was texting him. :grump: It's not fair.
I was meant to be going out tonight with some mates like normal on a Friday night. Whilst I was in the shower this morning my mum looked through my messages on my phone (reason no 1 for being mad) and then said you arent going out this weekend (reason no 2 for being mad). I was like urm why? I really did not know what I had done wrong. So she started going on about how she has read the messages from "andy" on my phone and that I am not going to see him tonight. I explained that I wasnt planning on seeing andy tonight just my friends. She said she had read a message saying he would see me tomorrow night. She has got it allllll wrrronggg. He was meant to be coming out with us tonight but I wasnt going to just see him. She hasnt been like this for a while, she is getting all control-freakish on me again. I thought she had stopped this for a short while. I'm not even seeing this andy, he is just a lad I met and I was texting him. :grump: It's not fair.
0
Comments
any particular reason she went through your phone?
Trussssttt me I don't stay in just because she said so, well not normally but I can't be bothered arguing with her but if I want to go out later I will.
Don't think she is bothered I was texting him really, just when he said will see you tomorrow about 7 or whatever and she thinks I am lying to her now and am not going out with my friends but going over to see him. Pathetic she is!
Oh and she went through my phone cos she is a total bitch!
hmmm, could you meet her half way? Calmly tell her that you're willing to negotiate, but if she stops you from going out to see your trusted friends then it will only drive you apart. I had a curfew when I was 16 (sad I know) but at least I could still go out. Perhaps you could suggest that as a way to go out while still allowing her to set some boundaries? But whatever happens, try your damned hardest not to lost your temper.
Hmmm yeah I suppose so. Mabye I should ask her, probably to get my head bitten off!
Ask her or not, my opinion is that if you stay in nothing good will come, if you don't at least you'll probably have a good time.
Being disobeyed really doesn't go down well with parents you know.
I wouldn't have said it was degrading. What was degrading was her Mum ready her phone texts. Personally I find that outrageous.
Like Helen said, you need to talk to you Mum but you also have to remember that you said that you wasn't going to meet this boy when actually you was - regardless of the fact that you were going to be part of a group - that still was a lie, no matter how small.
I think you need to mention to you Mum how much of a privacy invasion it is when you read other people's text messages, it's like opening their post. I have never done that to my wife or my kids.
To a certain extent that's exactly what she has. Part of that includes keys to the door, food on the table and roof over head.
A battle of wills is only going to go two ways, you back down because there more to lose, or you walk out and you both lose.
Staying in says that yuo respect the fact that she is your MUm and in her house it's her rules that apply.
I dunno- I don't think it's that unreasonable when ashlee admits that she used to be more rebelious and well given her mother reason to distrust her word.
But I hate, with a passion, snooping. If her Mum doesn't trust her anyway, then why should ashlee bother? It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. At the same time, I know that ashlee isn't helping herself.
Whilst with one hand you give kids enough freedom to make their own mistakes, your kids also have to learn that "my house, my rules" really isn't such an unreasonable concept. It is very rare that those rules aren't based on a level of concern for the child's welfare.
:yes:
Someone has to back down a little and be willing to compromise...
'Next week in our new sitcom Ashlee & Mum, Mum gets concerned over a condom found in the bisuit barrel, with hilarious consequences for Ashlee. That's Ashlee & Mum. 8pm Friday.'
Well done Ash, anyway
Was going to suggest that too. Samsung phones (I'm not sure if any others do) allow you to just lock the messages as well, which might be useful.