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:crying: I need help please, I broke up with my b/f on friday because it wasnt really working out, im just after discovering im pregnant today though.
I really dont no what to do it was quite a messy break up and he told me he hated me and now i dont no how to tell him or if i even should.. Has anyone got advice.
I really dont no what to do it was quite a messy break up and he told me he hated me and now i dont no how to tell him or if i even should.. Has anyone got advice.
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Yeah tell him sooner rather then later as otherwise he might think it's someone else's and your just trying to trap him.
There isn't a chance it could be someone else's is there?
I still love him, but we havent really been getting on for past few weeks and he's decided to go to america for a year in sept so i just thought it would be easier to finish things now rather than drag things out.
And now im afraid he is gona think im tryna trap him if i tell him now, and no there's no chance it could be anyone else's i've never even kissed anyone else since we got together nearly 2 years ago.
Well all you can do is contact him and tell him you need a word with him and that it's very important.
Sit him down and tell him straight, explain that you don't want him to be angry as you are both to blame for what happened and that you need some time to think about what to do.
He can't pressure you to do anything so don't let him, is there anyone you can talk to because no doubt you will need some support through what may be a hard time.
Another problem is we actually live together and he's moved into the spare room and we've barely talked to each other all weekend..
i just feel so stupid for getting myself into this situation
Plus the sooner it's out in the open the sooner you can start to figure out what you are going to do and find out how he feels about the situation.
It's not going to be easy but it has to be done *hugs*
If you want to keep the baby then do, if he doesn't want to be involved then that is his loss and like holliepop said do what you feel is best because it's a big decision to make which you don't want to end up regretting.
Good Luck with tomorrow and stay strong, it has to be done and you will feel better for having it out in the open.
He's probably still gona blame me even though i was on the pill and took them all properly so really dont know wht happened..
But like you said Squeal it has to be done so il just deal with all that at the time and hopefully it goes ok..
I dont really know what il do, Half of me is thinking id wana keep the baby because i can never really see myself having an abortion, and although i know i can do it alone im just a bit scared because i dont really get along with my family so il be completely alone if he decides he doesnt want to be a part of it.
Dont let any1 push you into doing anything, i would b in the same situation if i was in your shoes.
If he does decide that he does not want anything to do with you then your better off with out him. I know thats easier said then done, what im trying to say is think things through, think what you want in life, take a good look at you life and try and picture your future.
If you do need to talk i will b here. xx:)
Hey angelgirl,
I'm really sorry to hear about your dilemma - especially as you worry about being alone should you keep the baby. The good thing is you don't have to face this whole situation by yourself, there are people who can help. The following factsheets on TheSite have lots of relevant info: pregnant what now
Young mums
Parenting alone
Birth Father's rights
You might also find it helps to ring the fpa helpline for confidential information and advice on Tel: 0845 3101334
Again, if you don't feel able to talk to someone you know you can call SupportLine, in confidence on 020 8554 9004. SupportLine provides emotional support to any person on any issue.
Take care
he couldnt believe this is happening'' then said he needed to go out and think and we'd talk later, which is kinda fair enough as he's probably in complete shock and i've had since yesterday to get over get over the initial shock..
Really dont no what to expect from him cos he looked like he was gona cry or something when i told, but im sure we'l talk later so il let ya's know how it goes.. and thanks everyone for ll your advice.
i hope everything works out for you, and he comes to his sences. xx
I just told him that its ok if he's not ready but i wasnt going to be pressured into making any decisions at the moment and i need time to think of what im gona do, He wasnt really that happy and told me he'd prefer if i got an abortion with him there to help me through it..
Dont really know what im gona do now, to be honest i thought he'd say it was ok and he'd be there for me whatever i chose to do, but i suppose its fair enough at least he's told me how he feels, so at least i know now if i decide to have the baby il be doing it on my own
Good luck.
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For all you know, he might change his mind in a few weeks time or something. Don't be rushed or pressurised into doing something you're not ready or comfortable to do.
Im already so confused and he's making it soo much worse because i thought id come to a decision and now i think he's changing his mind and i dont know what to think, which is making me feel worse.. I've booked into a clinic for next thursday, so we both have until then to come to a definite decision and if we dont then i think il go ahead with abortion..
I don't really know what to say because you aren't really together anymore are you? If you don't go ahead with the abortion, long term will there honestly be a future for you together, because if it wasn't for this, wouldn't you have both gone your separate ways?
Well he's told me he never wanted us to break up and that he'd love for us to give it another go, regardless of whether i decide to have an abortion or not.. He moved back into our bedroom from the spare room last night because i didnt want to be on my own, so i dont really no if we'l get back together or not..
Im not sure if its possible but i felt really crazy last week and everything he did and said annoyed me, but i dont feel like that this week so i think that maybe my hormones were all over the place i didnt really know what i wanted.. i do still really love him so maybe after we've worked worked through all this we'l give it another go..
I'm pleased he's there for you anyway, I'm sure you'll both make the right decision under the circumstances when it comes down to it :thumb:
Thanks squeal and cheers for all your advice i really appreciate it and it really helped
Glad i helped if only a bit, let us know how it goes and you know where to come if you ever need to talk