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i lost my actual virginity when i was very young 'nuff said.
As for the other one well. I personally don't think it counts as losing your virginity.
I don't think virginity is as simple as a physical act. I think there is something mental to it aswell. Otherwise it would not be that big a deal. But girls talk about regretting it all the time. What is there to regret to breaking a little piece of tissue. I think there is a psychological aspect to it too.
And like some one previously posted - it used to simply mean young girls, then young girls that hadn't have sex, then either sex who hadn't had penetrative intercourse. So why can it not be redefined as a person that has not has sexual intercourse full stop? I think oral sex is a far more intimate act than penetration. Perhaps the old definition is a little out moded, just in the same way that assigning only two genders to the human race could be seen as out of date. Its an interesting question.
You just answered your own question, then contradicted it.
Yes, it's when you sleep with somebody for the first time/boy girl.
But this isn't different, just because some of some technicalities on biological makeup!
I'm not sure, but it seems like you're wanting to find some difference here to highlight the fact you've settled on girls etc and that the past experiences/mistakes(?) with men are somehow not going to count.
Yes they are. You're either a virgin, or not... and it doesn't matter which sex you've slept with! :rolleyes:
I think we can stop going back and forth over this.
As a foot note - the hymen thing is now WAY out of date - the focus needs to be shifted. Of the several virgins I've slept with, only one was intact as the rest had been ruptured by whatever fore play/finger play they got up to prior to sex.
What?
We have more than just male/female?
Are you seriously just trying to complicate life for yourself/everybody?!
Imagine how complicated some strange man/woman hybrid would be...
Anyhoo back to arguing my original point. Yep g angel, maybe you're right, maybe I am just trying to convince myself for past mistakes. But it doesn't feel like it, and I don't regret anything, infact I had a great time! I'd be quite happy feeling that that was it. But I do feel like that wasn't quite it until I slept with a woman.
Hmm I guess its all relative really.
And of course there are more that two genders... Namaste? I'm sure you feel the same way. Sex is physically defined. Gender is not. You are culturally/self assigned a gender. I wouldn't say I had a completely female gender, yes my sex is female, but that doesn't mean to say my gender has to be. They have been considered separate entities since the 70's I think.
Though of course it depends on who you talk to... the Chinese government only just took gayness off the disease list. :no:
From Wikipedia:
"Gender" in common usage refers to the sexual distinction between male and female. Although "gender" has commonly been used interchangeably with "sex," within the academic fields of cultural studies, gender studies and the social sciences the term "gender" refers to a social construction rather than a biological condition. Some languages have a system of grammatical gender, a type of noun class system: nouns may be classified as "masculine" or "feminine" (e.g., Hebrew, Arabic, French) or may even also have a "neuter" grammatical gender (e.g., Sanskrit, German, Polish). In such languages, this is essentially a convention, which may have little or no connection to the meaning of the words. Likewise, a wide variety of phenomena have gendered characteristics ascribed to them, by analogy to male and female bodies (such as with the gender of connectors and fasteners) or due to social norms. A person whose gender identity feels incongruent with their physical body may identify themselves as transgender or genderqueer.
So yes, fair enough to a point, but sex-ed classes were many many years ago for me, kiddo
What's lgbt? Educate me
Hahahaha - watch it, you :mad:
I know - I just can't help it :angel:
Whilst I get a lesson in lgbt and gender studies as I'm far to old for all that to have been too prevelant in an all boys school education...
My points about virginity detailed above still stand
L.G.B.T basically means lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender.
Jesus - we DEFINITELY didn't go into that... This was the mid-nineties. Things weren't as hip and happening as they are now with all this lgbt shit
Yo, I'm like so down with the sex-ed kidz :thumb:
Half of my mates are gay, girly
I used to be a promoter at a fantastic mixed club night in London (see my signature) before it got too big and my job too busy.
It's news to me
I must put something on the forum and see what the people on there make of it...
Hahaha - There are ALWAYS hot ladies
We *definitely* wouldn't have got any of this stuff in a Roman Catholic all boys grammar school
Well that's true...fair enough then...but you haven't heard the term around, since then? Especially if you used to do that kind of club night!!
But yes...would be interesting to see if other people haven't heard the term actually...just thought it was something everyone knew!! :chin:
Nope - never heard it, unless it was something I scanned over.
Definitely not used at the club night as the night is a MIXED night, not a gay night where straight people come along, and so the point is to try not to make ANY distinction. Think about it
To be honest I am sick to the back teeth of some gay nights being so anti-straight (believe me, I'm not any form of skin-head with big boots on etc etc) when I want to go in and hear the music I want to hear! I've been turned away several times from several nights, but am fine when going in with a gay person. Utter rubbish. This is one of the reasons Playtime was started - to try bring down the walls that many of these nights do end up building, even though 'acceptance' is supposed to be the goal.
Why can't we just all get along?!?!?!?!?!?!? WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!
(Oh, the last line is an aside, I *know* there will always be *some* people out there to cause shit.)
Haahaha - no, besides some (slighty differing from the mainstream) views I have, I hate fighting, walls segregating people (even worse when it's minorites always striving for acceptance putting these up themselves) and just general rubbish-ness.
I am *actually* a really decent bloke who loves nothing more than to have a good time and I don't like rubbish getting in the way of my good time, which is why I go to clubs like Playtime
Wow!! Well I'm very impressed with all that, I must say.....sort of ashamed to say, my perception of you has turned round greatly!!