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motorbikes and being a passenger
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Had a scary experience on Saturday night where I freaked out on the motorway (I seemed to remember that I suddenly was agoraphobic) and felt like I was slipping. It was so scary. I do the monkey hug thing anyway and I squeezed him bit he assumed I was hugging him so patted my hand. I tried yelling but of course he couldn't hear me because of the loud wind and the helmets..So I screamed in tears and he heard me and pulled over. I burst into tears and he said it wasn't very safe here and we had to scoot off. I was a bit better after that but still hated being on the motorway.
Decided not to go on the motorway with him on the bike because I felt like I was putting him and myself in danger incase I ever freak out again. I hated it. I burst into tears afterwards because of the exhaustion. It felt like I was using all of my energy just to cling on and knowing that if you let go then you're pretty much screwed was terrifying.
I know there are a few motorbike drivers among you and just wondered if I was normal really! and erm...any tips for being a good passenger I think I do okay but would like to know more.
Decided not to go on the motorway with him on the bike because I felt like I was putting him and myself in danger incase I ever freak out again. I hated it. I burst into tears afterwards because of the exhaustion. It felt like I was using all of my energy just to cling on and knowing that if you let go then you're pretty much screwed was terrifying.
I know there are a few motorbike drivers among you and just wondered if I was normal really! and erm...any tips for being a good passenger I think I do okay but would like to know more.
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i've also found that it really helps to be with the guy you love - sounds stupid but i've been on a couple of times with guys who were just friends and i found it much harder to trust them to look after me. whereas i trust my fella to think of me and not do anything stupid.
i agree though, that you probably shouldn't be putting yourself and him in danger by risking a really extreme reaction again. as i said i'm only just starting out but i'd just try and relax - at the end of the day your body will do anything to keep you alive so you're not just going to randomly let go. at that stage your body would, i'm sure, take control.
other question of good passengering....i look around like, all the time when we're going along, unless we're going really really fast. i figure it must be really annoying because surely my weight shifts around when i turn my head; he always tells me that as long as i move with him on bends and corners, it doesn't matter what i do the rest of the time. is he just being nice or is it really not important?
Yeah, I think what you've experienced is pretty normal.
Sorry that didn't help at all.
lacy!!! ahhh gawd, I heard the best thing to do if you come off of a bike is to get away from it because it can trap you and is heavy etc.
Same here.
I could never go on the back of somebody's motorbike even if I did trust them. I'd shit myself!
Last week I stayed at my boyfriends and decided to finally go on the back of his bike. I got as far as putting the helmet on and then developed this sudden claustrophobia where I felt like I couldn't breathe and had tears streaming down my face. So we decided to try again another time and I didn't go on in the end. I think part of the problem was that we were going to be going quite a way, and I need for the first time to be just up the road and back. The whole thing petrifies me though, to be honest, I think the main thing being that I just don't think I can trust myself enough to hold on and not to let go.
Lol sorry Chances are she wasn't holding on properly though.
feels so good diriving..
sorry that post was useless
Oh you poor thing. I know what you mean, just realised the helmet is pretty confining but I just think it looks funny now. First time I tried it on I walked around his drive doing astronaut impressions.
If you come off I'm not sure you'll be able to choose where you want to go. I'd recommend trying to protect your head, try to land on any spongy bits, sliding on your back is good.
Riders have been known to survive at speeds where a car just wouldn't because they've just slid on their leathers on their back.
Don't worry about looking around, that's fine. It's just in corners if a pillion is a bit uncertain they will try to sit up. Try to behave like a sack of potatoes, just follow the rider really. Don't lean, but don't sit up either.
I would recommend trying to work out some kind of signal if you want to stop, there was a good one I read recently. I will find it (I don't do much pillion riding.. yet).
It's always best to be safe than sorry. What does your boyfriend ride? You shouldn't feel like you're about to come off, motorcycles are designed to hold their riders in excess of 100mph . But I can understand how it would be a concern. I don't think I'd like to go pillion because I like to have control!
Unless the rider is an idiot you're probably not going to come off.
One thing though. Why motorway riding? I can't see the appeal. Windy, noisy, etc.
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Out of me, my brother & my sister I'm the only who has been on my dad's bike. Their reason is because they think he's going to go too fast and they're going to fall off. (and for the record, I've been out with him and had no problems. I will though, the first tiem I'd been out with him [bearing in mind he hadn't ridden his bike for 18 months] was really scary but at the same time it was fun)
Me too. Although I have been on a couple since but only for short drives, I get really scared.
Thanks for the advice Not sure what motorbike..it's umm yellow? Will ask him tho. Eurgh I know, motorways are just argh. We were going to visit his friend in Canterbury and it was about 45 minutes on the motorway to get there.