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am I being paranoid and selfish?
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ok, i have this issue with people just walking into my room and picking things up, ANYONE that is!! it could be my sister, my mom...anyone!! in my new flat i don't have a lock on my door. my flatmate of 3 years has this knack of just going into my room n borrowing things...it used to be things like ear rings..which is fine with me as long as get em' back!! but today she'd walked in n tried this new top of mine n called me to ask me if she could borrow it. now i've borrowed her cardigan...but i asked her while she was in the flat, n if she wasn't i wouldnt go into her room n try her things on!!!
I HATE it when she does that!!..like the other day when she opened my box of cereal!!!..i mean WTF man?!!!...i just like my personal space..n my room is MY territory...thats the way i feel anyways. but am i being paranoid? i'm thinknig of sitting her down and telling her nicely to not to try my stuff on when im not in the flat!! any opinions?
I HATE it when she does that!!..like the other day when she opened my box of cereal!!!..i mean WTF man?!!!...i just like my personal space..n my room is MY territory...thats the way i feel anyways. but am i being paranoid? i'm thinknig of sitting her down and telling her nicely to not to try my stuff on when im not in the flat!! any opinions?
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At uni if someone walked into my room and tried my stuff on I'd be livid, such an invasion of privacy - unless you've given her prior permission to go in etc. you just don't randomly go into someone elses room.
If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then have a word with your housemate. Its your room and your stuff. The reason he/she takes things from your room without asking will be because the rules aren't clear, you don't have to be nasty, but just explain you would rather they didn't go borrowing things from your room without asking you first. Once they understand where you stand on the matter the situation will improve.
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I go nuts at my parents if they even enter my room without knocking.
Urm, ok this post is no help :razz:
agreed.
but if you are doing it to her aswell, she probably thinks that justifies what she does. if you don't want her to do it, avoid doing it yourself, and talk to / yell at her about it.
well you are related, think it's kinda nice she feels comfortable enough with you to borrow your stuff.
There's borrowing and taking the piss stuff, at Uni I'd eat my food and wash up right away and dry and put everything in my draw.
I'd come back from lessons to find my flat mates had taken my clean plates and used them and left them on the sink along with all their unwashed crap. That's taking the piss, in effect it meant I was washing my own plates twice .. in the end after they kept doing it and asking them not to I used to keep my plates and cutlery in my room and bring it out and return it as and when.
i just said that she could borro anything she wanted to provided i was in the flat at that particular time...that's not too much to ask eh?:)