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It's not genetic or anything but the way your parents cheated on eachother could have had an influence into how you regard cheating. I've cheated once and can safely say I don't want to do it ever again. Was only a kiss but felt completely evil the next day. Didn't like my boyfriend at the time but it still gave me no right to do it. I should have finished it before it went that far. I would never even contemplate cheating on my boyfriend now because I'm in lurve.
My dads cheated on my mum several times, hes good at covering his tracks - so am i. I've probably got that from him.
I hope not! My Mum had an affair!
I've yet to cheat on anyone though.
with the others, there was always something lacking in the relationship so i was tempted more
my fiance is everything i want and need, so i dont feel the need to go out looking for something, as i already have it
so i dont agree with once a cheat always a cheat, people can change
Also, I can't speak for all guys, but definately in my social circle cheating is frowned upon heavily. However, one point, I cheated on my girlfriend (kiss and v. light petting) with another friend, and my friends saw me as the 'vulnerable boyfriend who made a mistake' cos I was going through a rocky patch, and saw her as the 'homewrecker'. Although tbf I said we were both to blame and she said it was all my fault. I was wondering if she was accusing me of sexual assault once - she wasn't, but she was saying that it was all down to me i.e. she didn't consent, which is the same thing isn't it? All because I told my girlfriend straight away afterwards which she thought was unfair of me!?
Lol, but that was years ago, made up now, all's good. Though she still has a holier than thou attitude with everyone. Suspect going to Warwick uni hasn't helped (though this years league tables CLEARLY show York is above it )
i don't think its okay to do it myself i just think i have quite a careless attitude towards relationships which i have obviously got from my dad (as he is worse than my mum).
A was like 10 months
-One month break-
B was for 4 months (that swiftly ended when i cheated on him four times in one night at a party)
-about ten weeks-
C was going out with him for 9 months (cheated on him a few times during the relationship then it ended when i met D and got with him)
-one week break-
D was on and off for about nine/ten months in that time i had got cheated on him a few times but not towards the last leg of the relationship
-1 week gap?-
Starting seeing other boys
Met E and starting going out with him cheated on him twice with F who i was seeing before i started a relationship with E.
I guess there is a bit of a weird pattern ..
I do not think it is genetically inheritable, maybe it's learned/adopted knowledge from your parents.
I don't think a cheater is a desired person of any sex to any party.
If my friend is with a bitch I might feel joy if he breaks up with her, but I wouldn't support him to cheat, even tho I wouldn't let it affect our friendship either.
justbe careful with the cheating, shit spreads around...
/e: are you proud of it? sounds like.
i normally always cheat but i really like my boyfriend at the moment and i'm trying my best not to cheat, and doing very well:)
its early days but i like him and don't want to hurt him so im saying no to others, something i never could do before.
people can change, they just need a lot of will power and love lol x
Wouldn't say I'm 'proud' but i do get an odd feeling of satisfation from it, only for a minute then I feel guilty because Im not a completely heartless bitch I guess I just don't really trust men and the ones I have trusted have let me down in my twisted logic I take it out on the ones that are nice. .. I think I just have issues ..
:yes:
Cheating is a symptom of something else.
On another episode I found out a girl was seeing me and someone else, so I started shagging around while I was still with her, think thats fair enough TBH.
I also have a bad reputation and i've been sain' fr a year I would cheat my current BF with a friend of mine.. yeah right, it just took me a week in spring brake without my BF...
I believe my dad has cheated on my mom, or maybe the condoms on his nighstand were for matrimonial use... (uhhh the picture )
I'm very good at covering tracks and not mixing the feelings of the cheat with the current guy... Maybe thats why I keep cheating, 'cause noone finds out =/
(bit of a rambler, i know xp)