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What should I do to help my daughter?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Drink & Drugs
I know my 16 year old daughter smokes cannabis fairly regularly. I don't have a big problem with it,as I have seen the far worse damage alcohol does, but I am aware that it is illegal, and that if she is caught, a conviction might prejudice her future job prospects etc(she wants to work with children). She thinks it is all just a laugh and she isn't very discreet about it. I think she and her friends feel immune to being caught.
Any advice from those of you who know about this? What can I do to help her exercise a bit of caution?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You could print out our latest article and show it to her. At the end of the day, though, she will have to make her own decision.

    Click on the link below to see the article: http://www.thesite.org.uk//drugs/safety/cannabis_in_europe_tougher_laws.html
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Karla's right, your daughter is at that tender age where she's getting ready to leave the nest and believes she can fly solo, unfortunatly you can't govern what your daughter does and any attempts may cause her to rebel more...

    I'd say the best thing to do for her would be to be there for her and support her, express your opinions honestly and try and stear her away from the dealing aspect... educate her about saftey with regards to getting caught (ie. don't smoke spliffs in public), she'll probably tell you she already knows all this but at least your voice has been heard and hopefully your mind will be put a bit better at rest.

    With regards to her job, or any job for that matter, just make her aware about the children with regards to cannabis, you could inform her that drugs tests are slowly being brought in and that if a substance is found she will loose her job, tell her that cannabis stays in the system for a minimum of about 28 days....

    Its difficult, just be supportive, at that age many youngesters go through cannabis use as a phase and she may well grow out of it... good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i started smoking pot at 15, i'm still doing it now (i'm 16). and getting busted is a very real thing for me. one of my closest friends spent an hour in a cell at half 3 in the morning for posession of weed. just tell her to be careful. thats all you can do. perhaps if she does get caught then it will open her eyes it a bit more.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks for the advice from all of you, which has helped. it is reassuring to know I am not being completely daft. Of course it is her life, but you can't help loving your own daughter and not wanting her to have to learn her lessons the hard way!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I can fully understand your concern, being a mother myself I would find it hard to approach the situation of drug taking. As the people before me have said the best thing is to be supportive and to advise your daughter not to be so open about what she is doing.
    It is possible to have this pass time and still hold down a good job as me and many of my friends do.
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