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following on from Namaste's thread....iv never been in a long term relationship either, and I do love being single cos I get to do what I want when I want...and the guilt free flirting's awesome as well.
But sometimes I wake up wishing I had someone waking up with me....and this is wierd bcos i have issues with sharing my bed with someone(....as in literally i feel like im being crowded out of my personal space when i sleep with someone on my bed!!) i also feel like that a bit when im watching certain movies.....(yeah yeah...the cheesy comedy romance ones!)
does anyone else who's single n really honestly enjoying it feel this 'twinge' sometimes? or are they happy to be single right now no matter what?
But sometimes I wake up wishing I had someone waking up with me....and this is wierd bcos i have issues with sharing my bed with someone(....as in literally i feel like im being crowded out of my personal space when i sleep with someone on my bed!!) i also feel like that a bit when im watching certain movies.....(yeah yeah...the cheesy comedy romance ones!)
does anyone else who's single n really honestly enjoying it feel this 'twinge' sometimes? or are they happy to be single right now no matter what?
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Is it a comfort to tell you that when you're in a relationship, and are being dragged around halfords/topshop (delete as appropriate to indicate your idea of hell) for the umpteenth time that sometimes, just sometimes, you wish you were single?
Even when I'm in a rel. I do what I want when I want but a lot of that includes my other half. I like to have lots of friends time too though.
Yea I only usually get it if my friends are in relationships. If we're all single then it's great, but most of them are coupled up at the moment, and during the last long-term relationship I had they were all single :yeees: typical
And I cant ring my mate cos hes always got his girlfriend round with him........hes a wanker though cos he always likes to point out how I never get girlfriends,hes got a girlfriend and hes getting sex.Git.
As selfish as it sounds, I'd rather just concentrate on myself rather than having to think about anyone else and having to arrange MY LIFE around THEIRS.
I'm happy enough just having fun with boys. I doubt I'll stop enjoying being single until I've settled down tbh.
I think 'fun' would make me feel better because it's been a longtime. But i just find myself in those situations. Possibly because apparantly its supposed to be the guy who approaches. I dont really do that.
Tbh, I don't really think about it.
Boys approach me most of the time. However, I approach boys sometimes, I'm confident enough too. Its all about confidence in my opinion:yes:
Also, alot of the boys I end up pulling I know through a friend so we just end up talking anyways when we are out in groups.
People tried to make me talk to girls last night and it was nerve wracking. I just cant approach a random i like the look of. :no: It blows.
yeah see...im in the same boat as u at the mo...about to graduate - hopefully- am moving to a new place in a couple of months, n pretty excited about it!!!..hanging with friends...busy with work ..n liking work too...n i like the fact that i get to do things on MY schedule without having to account for anyone else!!
but i still wish sometimes that i did have a man...like when im watching a corny movie by myself...
but overall im quite happy with my life at the mo...
and Renzo, about approaching people n feeling confident...iv heard that if u pretend u r the most confident person around..then u kinda start to feel more confident!!..it's worked for me before!!:yes:
Yes i do get extremely lonely and wish i was in a r.ship, because i miss just having someone to think about, and having someone i know is always thinking about me. But then i wouldn't sacrafice my future for anyone.
At the end of the day being single works for me right now, even if that means i am lonely, but to be honest, i cannot wait for the day i start to fall in love again...
tell them you like eddie izzard
That's a really good idea!!
ex: so then you after any girls lately
me: erm no i need to get over you first before i even attempt go out with a other girl
ex: yeh what ever dude just go along with live without me im just a stupid girl
me: (sighs) you may of found it easy to get over me and move on but obviusly i aint and i love you if it matters to you still (sighs once again) you cant getover some one you love as much as i loved you so easily
and thats it and its like a constant reminder of the good times witch i aint be feeling for a long time it sux so much so in my case no i hate beeing single and i dnt even know how to flirt so im screwed there
You don't know how to flirt? So how did you land your ex? You must have done something right....:thumb:
As for the approaching thing................good god its terrifying!!:nervous: :nervous: :nervous: I would have had so much more luck with women if Id tried to start a conversation instead of hiding on the opposite side of the club..........:banghead:
How old are you?
My life changes quite a lot too (job, where I live, finances are a bit up and down) so a drink, a dance and an occasional shag suits me fine. There's a girl I know and I've been with that's pretty much perfect for me, but she's far far away and it's a bit complicated but again things are changing all the time so you never know. It'd have to be something pretty special like that to tear me away from my singledom
I need a lot of space and a really chilled out girlfriend, there is little I hate as much as stress and I just can't be bothered with that. My ideal relationship should be very very similar with the friendships I have with girls, therefore I frequently fall for my friends.
I dislike being single, but I know I am even more unsatisfied in a relationship that's not how I imagine it. I am complicated...