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How Do I Know When I'm Ready?
BillieTheBot
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About 4-5 weeks ago, a friend of mine decided that he couldn't talk to me. (he didn't tell me why) He decided to ignore anything I tried to tell him until a few weeks ago when I asked when is he likely to start talking to me again. All he said was 'when you stop acting the way you do with me, I might consider it.' He told me that if I really had anything to say to him, then I'd have to email him.
On Friday, I emailed him asking him to talk to me again, but on Saurday emailed him again and told him not to bother because I'm not too sure if I'm ready yet.
The thing is, I really do want to start talking to him again but I don't know if I'm ready yet. How do I know when I'm ready?
On Friday, I emailed him asking him to talk to me again, but on Saurday emailed him again and told him not to bother because I'm not too sure if I'm ready yet.
The thing is, I really do want to start talking to him again but I don't know if I'm ready yet. How do I know when I'm ready?
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but what ever has gone on, no one can tell you when you're ready, you'll just know
:yes:.
ask him?
to be honest sof, he doesnt sound like a very good friend, from what i gathered on here, you're going through some emotional things right now, and he should be there for you, not stressing you out more!
i think he needs to give his head a wobble!
I've done that at least wtice in the last few weks.
I know that. But he did tell me a few months ago that it wasn't possibe for him to be around that often.
if he isnt speaking to you, he really owes you an explanation why!
relationships like this are unhealthy sof, cut dead wood out of you life
if he doesnt shape up, and shape up fast, i really wouldnt bother
you need his support, not his childishness! x
I know that but I also understand that this isn't easy for him either - which looks like the reason why he's decided that he won't talk to me.
I'm sorry to hear your friend has stopped talking to you, and left you with this ultimatum.
In any kind of relationship where one person has the upper hand, things can become awkward and one person is bound to get hurt. In this case it sounds like you're the one who is likely to get hurt because you are unsure of why your friend is behaving like he is. The thing is, it sounds like you're ready to speak to him, but you're (quite rightly) anxious about how he might respond. Because the following:
Doesn't seem to offer much reassurance.
There's a danger that the longer this scenario continues, the longer you are going to suffer. It sounds like he was a very good friend to you at a certain stage, but has failed to live up to that in recent months. Unfortunately sometimes friendships, like love relationships, can come to a natural end, and I guess it's up to you to decide whether or not what you have left of this friendship is worth your time and energy.
I hope you're ok.
so? its YOU having the hard time and he should be there for you, not throw a hissy fit!
course its not easy for him, no friend would like to see their mate upset and in pain, but mates are there for each other regardless hun
'You say you want to talk to me but it usually ends up just as wanting me to give you free music.'
Although I stopped talking to some people (although not as bluntly) when they never seemed to take an interest in me, and just wanted my help with the maths assignments. But I'd only known them a few weeks, so it wasn't a major thing.
Have you had a relationship in the past? maybe he has unresolved feelings
As Helen mentioned, friends often do go their seperate ways and friendships can run there courses like relationships. I would suggest that you take a step back from the situation ,in my opinion you have done nothing wrong and this person seems to be preying on your vulnarabilities.
Oh well, doesn't really matter now - we seem fine for now.