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Chuck it. Just drop it in the bin (do it in a public waste bin and you cant fish it out) and get rid of it for good. If its not there you cant use it. Its a hard thing to do though, your holding on one thing that reminds you of your past, but if you can do it, it will help you a lot.
im such a retard though i gave into it last night nad harmed so badly and am in so much pain with it-i really wish i could just get out of this-just click my fingers and it would be gone
im so sorry
You need to look after your wounds so that they don't become more painful than they already are.
:yes: Sofie is right if you look after your wounds you can help alivate the pain and reducing scarring. Try from thesite and Recover your life if you havent already seen them.
I put some Diprobase on it but didn't really do anything.
In someways i wanted her to tell me this so that i could move on and live my own life, but in another way, i don't think i wanted it to come down to this. You only get one mum in life after all, and i feel i should've done more to stop this from happeining.
I feel so low. I just want it all to end. Perhaps i should do the same as she did., and try to end it all. I just don't know. Perhaps that would be for the best.
I would advise painkillers to take the edge off if its that bad. Keep the wounds clean and try to not upset the wound or strech the surrounding skin too much as that hurts like hell from experience.
Please don't think/talk like this.
Thats a bad idea, as if you have any sort of scar tissue and you cut it again and again it will only get more painful and take longer to heal every time. I just go through phases of cutting one certain area and then changing.
its hard not to. Im feeling so low. I was so close to doing it last night, and now after what she has said, i jus feel like it would be best all round
just wondering what other people think
It may not be self harm - I have several scars on my arms (upper) that aren't.
Just a little update - I seem alright now. My arm seems fine now.
True. I have a lot more non SH scars then actual SH scars. Some people dont like showing them, some really dont care.
Indeed they do. SOme of mine have actually started fading now and are only visible if I get my skin wet.
I have a few that are like that as well. Not sure why though.
besides i couldnt explain them - give myself away like that
This is how I feel a swell. if it's just the one then it would be aliright, but I have several so it'd be much harder to explain.
I have very few scars on my arms (because when I was a self harmer, I quickly realised this was a bad idea and self harmed elsewhere). However, although the ones on my arms are visible to me, nobody else notices them. They are 4/5 years old now AND I've used many scar reduction products.
Some people are more comfortable representing who they are rather than others. I've been comfortable showing my arms for about 2 years now purely because they are barely noticable. However, I can see them. At the end of the day though, if someone does notice them and does judge me for it then they can fuck off. My scars are part of my past and make me who I am. The most noticable ones though, I hide under bracelets and a watch on the wrist I used to self harm on so I'm still not 100% confident with showing them.
I've used stupid excuses in the past when people have noticed...fell in a thorn bush, fell through a glass door, burnt myself at work, etc.
Alot of people do have non-self-harm scars though :yes:
I used the fell in a thorn bush one. Can't believe i said it now cos it was blatantly obvious it wasn't that. Oh the shame. But yeah at the time before they faded i didn't show them to anyone, apart from the one time i forgot and rolled my sleeves up hence the thorn excuse.
Aye.
I used to hide mine. However, when I used to work at Mc'Donalds years back, I wore a tubigrip thing to cover them (because our sleeves were short so I used excuse of a sprained wrist) and I got called an attention seeker because it was on for about a month and people started saying stuff. However, when I took it off due to this, everyone gawped at my arm and didn't talk to me
I used the thorn bush excuse here I *think* (it was such a long time ago) but I think my ex who worked with me at the time told people the truth. It was a pretty rubbish excuse but its the first thing that sprung to mind :yeees:
I'm *very* lucky because mine have faded quite well.
I'm quite lucky in the fact that mine do fade to nothing pretty quickly.
I knew of one girl in my year at school whose forearms where covered in scars by the time she was 16. There was another that carved the word bitch into one of her arms as well.