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There's much more to a relationship than having hildren together. Surely the first few months of being together would be getting to know each other better than even thinking about having a baby, moving in together, etc.
Yea spot on, and the most vital part
Yes they can. The secure mental wards. If you're sectioned, that's where you go.
A whole month?
Damn i thought there would be other methods to save on hospital space as thats a long time
Your "c" is'nt working is'nt it??
:yes:
How long have you known him for?
Say no to engagement yet. After 2 years if you are still together and strong you might consider it. Even then, 18 is still very young to be getting married but at least with 2 years together you might want to make a decision.
As for the anti-depressants, this is no cause for alarm. He may be suffering from bi-polar or similar, and with the anti-depressants he can live a normal life.
What the fuck?
Yes, taking anti depressants isn't the reason to be alarmed here, it's the signs of rampant control freakery you want to watch out for.
im not afraid to say it.
seriously, what the fuck?!
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FOUR YEARS of knowing each other, and your're on the right track.
:yes: But wouldn't that depend alot on how long you've known each other? My parents were together 2 years before getting engaged but had known each other several months before they were together.
I knew a week after I started going out with my other half that we were perfect together. So did he. We moved in together 10 months later and now we're engaged after only 18 months. We've just bought a house together and we're getting married next year (date is set)
We had been going out for exactly two weeks when we said 'I love you' and we meant it.
You can't judge every relationship the same way.
Personally I agree that this guy is rushing in head first, but then it depends how long they have been friends and known each other. Going out for four days isn't the same if they've only known each other four days as it is if they've been friends for 14 years. The fact that the OP is asking questions about what she should do would suggest to me that it's all happening too quickly for her, not the amount of time they've been together.
The best way is to let these things develop naturally, then when it's the right time for both of you, then go with it! I'm one of those that only believes in engagement if it's followed by marriage, otherwise you'll end up like some people who get engaged three weeks in to every relationship they have, and when it falls apart it feels like the end of the world until the next person fulfills that whole in your life and resumes the same intensity. But a good relationship cant always be that intense... I don't know, in a way your partner should be your best friend, who you can always depend on and always trust, rather than the person you're dead excited about all the time.
Take it easy, you won't regret it
Listen to your parents, they have a valid point.
No major loss if you've only been with him 4 days. He sounds far from stable and if you go along with his crazy ideas he could quite easily ruin your life especially if he is talking about kids!!
He's obviously taking advantage of the fact your very young and obviously like the geezar. Please please please fuck him off!!
Can i hazard a guess he doesn't have many friends?
Stand your ground, kitty.
my mum told me to give him another chance so i have and we are still together but all my friends are telling me to dump him because he has lied to me 3 times this week and accuses me of cheating on him nearly every day but i think deep down he does really love me and he does show it most of the time
also he has asked me to get married to him again and i said yes to please him and he wants to get married on his birthday 26th may 2007 but i havnt agreed a date yet
I honestly have noting more to say - i know its a very scary prospect but your friends are obviously looking out for you and will be there to support you as will your mum. Its the best thing for you in the long run.
You just have to be strong - take a friend along with you to hold your hand afterwards (though obv not be there at the actual dumping).
Its horrible you will feel like crap but it is for the best in the long run and you have to do it now to save yourself.