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Chicks dig me!!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Because I rock...

Seriously though...


I've recently immersed myself in to the gay scene and had a night dancing, anyway I met a mate up in Soho and we went to GAY. Afterwards she told me quite a few women were trying to get my attention dancing, but I realy didn't notice...

Now I'm not the pulling type, but this has happened before. Where a woman has liked me and I really cant tell.

Any tips?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hm....I ususally get it where chicks may dig me but I just dont believe they do and think they are looking at my mate so I ignore them.
    Any tips for that?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The Leaf wrote: »
    Hm....I ususally get it where chicks may dig me but I just dont believe they do and think they are looking at my mate so I ignore them.
    Any tips for that?

    Learn from your mistakes I guess.

    And Namaste, have you tried handing them a bit of paper and a pen with:

    Do U like me?
    Yes?
    No?
    Don't Know?

    And get them to tick next to the right answer.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Learn from your mistakes I guess.

    And Namaste, have you tried handing them a bit of paper and a pen with:

    Do U like me?
    Yes?
    No?
    Don't Know?

    And get them to tick next to the right answer.

    :yeees:

    *waits for Jomery to hijack the thread*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The Leaf wrote: »
    Hm....I ususally get it where chicks may dig me but I just dont believe they do and think they are looking at my mate so I ignore them.
    Any tips for that?

    Believe in yourself more I guess.

    Btw I didn't mean the post to sound narcissistic, but this isn't another woe is me thread about not being able to get laid.

    I know women have been and possibly are currently attracted to me, but I always tend to miss the signs. This may be because I have dyspraxia, maybe I am not looking in the right places. I am a shit flirt too...

    I mean I don't know if the rules are different for same sex relations, but what is the best way to chat up a woman?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Namaste wrote: »
    Because I rock...

    Any tips?

    because you are the only real lesbian I somewhat have 'contact' to: Don't all lesbians crave the dick? I mean they surely shove cylindrical objects into their fanny and in each others fanny.

    Wouldn't a MFF threesome would be something grand for two lesbian? 2 girls who get it on and one piece of meat as a means to an end?

    I think you have to be lesbian to understand the concept.


    oh and sorry that i couldn't help you with your issue, congratz tho.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    because you are the only real lesbian I somewhat have 'contact' to: Don't all lesbians crave the dick? I mean they surely shove cylindrical objects into their fanny and in each others fanny.

    Wouldn't a MFF threesome would be something grand for two lesbian? 2 girls who get it on and one piece of meat as a means to an end?

    I think you have to be lesbian to understand the concept.


    oh and sorry that i couldn't help you with your issue, congratz tho.

    I think you need to watch way less porn and a lot more L Word
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    because you are the only real lesbian I somewhat have 'contact' to: Don't all lesbians crave the dick? I mean they surely shove cylindrical objects into their fanny and in each others fanny.

    Wouldn't a MFF threesome would be something grand for two lesbian? 2 girls who get it on and one piece of meat as a means to an end?

    I think you have to be lesbian to understand the concept.


    oh and sorry that i couldn't help you with your issue, congratz tho.

    Uhm.... What?

    Why are people being cocks? Have I worded something wrong?

    I'm just asking for advice on talking to women and knowing if they like me or not.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    Don't all lesbians crave the dick?

    Of course. All lesbians know that all they need is a damn good fucking off a guy to turn them striaght. :D (oh that is sarcasm by the way)

    As for Nameste. I know what you mean. I don't get this dating/attracting attention lark at all and on the odd occassion someone tries to attract my attention i either miss it completely or think they've got a nervous tick/stigmatism/mental disorder :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Namaste wrote: »
    Uhm.... What?

    Why are people being cocks? Have I worded something wrong?

    I'm just asking for advice on talking to women and knowing if they like me or not.

    I don't think you've worded anything wrong and i don't understand why people are being idiots. Thought they were past the age for getting all giggly when the word lesbian is used.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    I mean they surely shove cylindrical objects into their fanny.
    Well yes, there's a lovely little g-spot up there that makes for a great orgasm. :thumb:

    Have you just started puberty or something?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just to say that people should obviously move past the comments made by Strubbles - this is a relationship thread, and the idea that because a lesbian has made a post she should suddenly be asked intimate details about her sexual behaviour is obviously unacceptable, as posters have pointed out...

    So any advice on knowing if women do fancy you?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If they explicitly state that they're currently single.

    Happened me last night, pulled the girl only I didn't realise her possessive ex was a bouncer in the club we were in.

    He boxed me twice in the face, and then chased me out of the club. Good thing I'm quick because if he hadda caught me he would have put me in hospital.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Addict wrote: »
    If they explicitly state that they're currently single.

    Happened me last night, pulled the girl only I didn't realise her possessive ex was a bouncer in the club we were in.

    He boxed me twice in the face, and then chased me out of the club. Good thing I'm quick because if he hadda caught me he would have put me in hospital.

    I gues, so if they kinda discuss relationships, ask what your type is and all that it could mean they like you?

    I really am crap at talking to women, life wuld be easier if I were a guy (or straight)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Namaste wrote: »
    I gues, so if they kinda discuss relationships, ask what your type is and all that it could mean they like you?

    I would say it's a dead cert. Alot of the times when a girl has explicitly told me that she's currently single, it's because she's interested in me. It's kinda like a green light or something, so you can make a move. I'd say enquiring about what your type is is a pretty good sign as well.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Namaste wrote: »
    I really am crap at talking to women, life wuld be easier if I were a guy (or straight)

    It wouldn't though, yo9u'd stil have to be able tot ell if someoen fancied you or not. You could just assume that everyone you fancy fancies you too.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    katralla wrote: »
    It wouldn't though, yo9u'd stil have to be able tot ell if someoen fancied you or not. You could just assume that everyone you fancy fancies you too.

    What and suffer the embarassment of being turned down?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As Addict said, saying they're single is a pretty good sign. One girl at uni was talking to me and said she was single, then I said I was too but weren't looking for anything, we got talking, swapped MSNs, then it turned out she actually had a boyfriend. But making an effort to talk to you is another good sign. I dunno, to start with you're oblivious, but when you've made the connection a few times when a girl tells you she likes you, and she's been giving these signals before, then you start to recognise what the 'green light' signals are.

    Like, the 'levle' is when they show so much attention to you, and it's hard to advise someone else where that is exactly. Someone saying hi, asking your name and offering to buy you a drink is probably not enough (but, in some cases, based on their body language, could be) - and then on the other hand someone talking to you all night and following you around you'd think would be an easy tell, but they might just like your company.

    At the end of the day, I think if you think a girl might possibly be interested, and you are, makea move. If it doesn't go well, oh well - better luck next time. If it does, then :thumb:. But I think your dyspraxia will certainly make it more difficult, because it's all in the subtleties in my experience.

    Then again, there's people I'm sure fancy me who apparently don't. And others I'm sure hate me who apparently do. So sometimes, it's just completely random. (though the person I'm sure fancies me, I reckon she does, and she just doesn't admit it to people since she has a boyfriend :p - she kissed me on the head ferkristsake)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Namaste wrote: »
    What and suffer the embarassment of being turned down?

    Not everyone will turn you down though. It's the complete issue of all singles everywhere. Do you just turtle and not make a move on anyone, possibly forgoing chances at geat happiness, do you make a move on everything that moves, but then risk something happening with someone you weren't really into, or do you find a line somewhere in the middle, where you take a chance even though you're not sure - but only with the people you really like, rather than just speculative flirts.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ShyBoy wrote: »
    At the end of the day, I think if you think a girl might possibly be interested, and you are, makea move. If it doesn't go well, oh well - better luck next time. If it does, then :thumb:. But I think your dyspraxia will certainly make it more difficult, because it's all in the subtleties in my experience.

    Then again, there's people I'm sure fancy me who apparently don't. And others I'm sure hate me who apparently do. So sometimes, it's just completely random. (though the person I'm sure fancies me, I reckon she does, and she just doesn't admit it to people since she has a boyfriend :p - she kissed me on the head ferkristsake)
    Dyspraxia makes it A LOT harder. Women tend to think I'm more 'cute' or 'sweet' then sexy and eye contact is an issue, yeah. I don't feel like I need a relationship or to pull, but I'm pretty clueless in a sort of nerdy way with women in clubs.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nothing wrong with cute and sweet :) I don't think anyone's ever seen me as sexy! If you're not looking out for partners or anything, just have a nice time...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd love to know why my post was removed.
    I was just about to justify and explain my predication.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    I'd love to know why my post was removed.
    I was just about to justify and explain my predication.

    Do it then?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Namaste wrote: »
    Do it then?

    I did? but someone thought it's clever to remove it and just leave my easy to misunderstand post on the first page.

    I was not ill-willed or sarcastic or whatever. I do think you are quite nice. If I'm sarcy, ill-willed or mean, usually against people I do not like, which is not the case here.

    It was just a kind of consideration about instinct, that homosexual woman get off in the same way a heterosexual women get off.

    I will withdraw it tho now, because I have virtually no interest in it under these premises and attitude that's going on in this thread.
  • **helen****helen** Deactivated Posts: 9,235 Supreme Poster
    StrubbleS wrote: »
    It was just a kind of consideration about instinct, that homosexual woman get off in the same way a heterosexual women get off.

    Which bears entirely no relation to this thread whatsoever. I've sent you a PM.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Is it just girls you can't read? Or anyone that likes you? Because personally I think I can tell just as well if a gay man is into me as a girl.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Namaste wrote: »
    What and suffer the embarassment of being turned down?

    hmmn, maybe. it doesn't have to be too embarrassing thouhg. you could say something like- I'mm dsypraxic and have trouble telling if someone's flirting with me, but I am flirting with you. It's more funny than embarrassing really and I can't imagine many bad reactions to something like that.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    katralla wrote: »
    hmmn, maybe. it doesn't have to be too embarrassing thouhg. you could say something like- I'mm dsypraxic and have trouble telling if someone's flirting with me, but I am flirting with you. It's more funny than embarrassing really and I can't imagine many bad reactions to something like that.

    :lol: I'll try that!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well like Addict said, if they state that they are single it's often a good indication that they're interested in you.
    I don't think it's much different whether you're straight, gay or bi. Maybe les/bi girls are prone to be a bit more subtle, more focused on words and the fine art of body language maybe than the majority of men?
    If they touch you, say brushing past you when there's plenty of room then that's a good sign. If they talk to you about your hobbies and interests that are completely different to their own (and you seem to have nothing in common, lol!) then in my experience it's an excellent indication they're interested in you. I got chatting to a girl once who seemed quite friendly, she wanted to hear about my interests, though they were nothing like her own. I thought she was nice (though not interested in her in the least), she said a minimal amount to my friends. It wasn't until she'd left and my friend told me that the girl really fancied me that I knew! :lol:
    It's funny, sometimes we can pick up on the subtleties, other times even the most intune of us can miss the obvious.
    As for letting a girl know you like them? Smile at them, tell them they're sexy, pay them extra attention by making eye contact more often and more lingering.
    I suppose you've looked at the articles about body language and flirting? Hmm you could always say what katralla suggested! :razz:
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