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I just would like to have seen some of the claims substantiated. Simple as.
With somebody plainly ignoring any advice given, and I have PM'd the OP as I've known many people in the City, offering to chat to this bloke offline (which I received no response), it's just getting a bit far fetched now.
In the last year I've brought back about a dozen different girls to stay at mine. All of them definitely saw me as a friend and had no intention of fucking me.
Yeah my situation's somewhat odd I know..
But it's like an itch that just neeeeeds to be scratched
Oh - and I *am* still attempting to offer 'advice' whilst I am trying to get concrete on the OP.
To be honest, are you certain you really do want to pull? Maybe you deep down don't want to just lose your virginity in this situation, maybe you'd rather be with one of the people you grew up with rather than people who sound (and I live in London, so I know not everyone here is like this) like shallow shit heads.
Maybe there's a stronger subconscious reason why you're in this situation. You clearly have no difficulty coming across situations where you're in an intimate setting with women, so something has to be occurring. And to be honest the 'I'm just too nice a guy' hardly cuts it - both because your personality here is clearly opposed to that idea, and because that just doesn't happen that many times, as other people have said.
So - here's a suggestion. Stop taking girls home that you know only see you as a friend. That will slowly start changing people's thoughts of you etc etc.
Also, I would suggest, stop shelling out paying for everything for girls. You're basically being played as a mug. As far as I see it, you get a round in, they bloody well should. I've been to the clubs/bars you go to and I'm not impressed at all. You pay through the nose, and you just get snotty people their.
When it comes down to it (and you're going to wash right over this, again), it doesn't matter if you're paying £XXX for drinks, it's down to how much fun you're having, which it doesn't sound like you are having!
I would surmise that this 'I'm too nice a guy' thing is more a cover for 'I'm a doormat with money' and there are plenty of people out there far too eager to take advantage of this, and I'm sorry girls, but this is mainly you lot. I have to be careful when I'm out as when I get a few drinks/whatever in me, people know I start throwing £££ around (not in an arrogant, showy way, just more of an 'oh, I'll get this one in' way... and it seems to be my turn far too often, if you know what I mean), and rounds/drinks rarely come back my way when it's like that. I have no problems going up to somebody saying 'Oh, I think it's your round', or 'Oh, you owe me a drink' though, so I'm all good.
And my in-person persona is very different to what I'm writing online, I'm unanimously a really nice guy, hence female friends have no trouble being in my company cos they know I'll look after them and not think of taking advantage of them, however much I actually want to.
Have you tried internet dating sites? I remember reading in an easyjet in-flight magazine about a dating website designed specifically for high-fliers. I'm sorry but I can't remember the name.
It's not uncommon for career-orientated people to be lacking a personal life.
See JimV, it's quotes like this that are just so out of character with the rest of the postings that just stand out as "???" and make me question the validity.
Also ever so slightly creepy.
Told ya its fake! I've seen porn chicks 'cumming' that look more convincing then is! But fair play to the guy he's kept this going for while
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Check the link - VIP rooms, beautiful people, fancy clothes, nice cocktails... I love that scene, I know most of you will despise it!
Your not after a girl for the right reasons, this could be a reason why girls seem to be turning you down. Pehaps they can see thru this.
You're wanting a lifestyle not a girl. You want someone who can help you present the image of the person you want to be. :no:
A girl isnt a product you can purchase from the shelf who will fit into your life exactly how you need her to.
Ask yourself this. If you bump into a girl tomorrow who you think is ace, will you still want to see her if she doesnt like going to VIP clubs and drinking fancy cocktails ? If she would rather go to the local pub with friends and spend £20/£30 all night and have a couple of pints, will you still want to see her, or would you not want anything to do with her?
If you can answer that question honestly, you half way to workin out what you want.
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Right - before I go to bed... To clarify, I don't despise nights like that, they do have a purpose, but if those are what you fill your social calendar with, then I think you just need a bit of a change of scenery. I know you say you love that scene, but if it's bringing you no joy, then try something else.
Are you into clubbing, at all? As in proper clubbing (and I don't mean Tiger bloody Tiger or those god awful tourist traps around Leicester Sq)? That's where I meet most of the women I do - as I know we're all there for the same thing: Good music, dancing and getting a little bit mashed.
Either way - I would, yet again, make people pay their own way when you go out. You can't be seen to be buying the drinks the whole time as people cotton onto this and you're rapidly labelled as 'guy who buys me drinks' by the ladies.
Just a point, and one of which I am very curious about - on that link you posted, many of the guys had their job titles etc etc after their names, but none of the women did (although there were many double-barrelled surnames). Are they also entrepreneurs, or are they simply there to wangle free drinks out of people like yourself? Just curious as pretty girlies get many free things in life out of blokes none too wise to it.
Before anybody kicks off - have a think. How many free/cheap nights have half the girls on here had due to blokes buying them drinks? Exactly.
Just to add more to this before I get a flaming - as I've mentioned, I've worked in the same kind of circles as Jomery (and hated it, for the most part), and the creature known as the 'Society Girl' is quite common (which is what this post is referring to). They drift from party to party, basically living off the idiots who will happily fund them. I've known girls living in £2million apartments in Kensington, paid for by some bloke they rarely see, and they just party the rest of the time away, paid for by yet more stupid men. It fucks me off no end that people get so much for doing nothing but being pretty. Hey, that's the way of the world, huh?
I am rather sure you are taking that back a few months, or maybe years from now...
Actually, since KingOfGlasgow (I think) said it, all I see is patrick bateman's anger for those little sausages pretending they got a reservation in that hip restaurant, when I read jomery's post. A guy who is wrestling in a superficial, illusional contest of fake fronts, 'status' and prestige.
The more I read about it, the more petty it occurs to me. Some people shouldn't have potency or power of any form, they just can't handle it.
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potw, btw.
You are talking out of your ass. I’ve worked in the media industry. I use to have my lunch with the series producer of a globally watched show, advising me on my future. The productions I worked on no one gives a toss about what someone’s bird looks like on their arm, know one cares about things like that regardless of what circle your in (most of the talent in the industry are right scruffy, unkempt cos eventually deadlines and broken agreements get to you). It only counts to those under 20 and those celebs who live by their image. I have no clue what planet your living on cos mate were not on the same sphere.
Your clients and mates, please, tell me their 23 and under cos I know of no one from station owners to retail buyers to executive producers who would laugh or have no respect for you if you said you’re single.
Remember that there are fine lines running between Nice Guy|Not So Nice Guy|Twat
Get it wrong, and you'll be no better off!!
did jom actually try and hook up with you then?
I mean, that was the opportunity on the golden platter, this all seems to get fishy
I thought so - and there is your reason why you're not picking them up (to my mind).
Wrong people, wrong time, wrong place.
Can you not see how obvious this all is?!
(I stayed up just to read your answer as I *knew* I was 100% correct.)
Fair enough. Have you ever tried it though?
... and for the record, you'll find women just as pretty, yet with a damned sight more to say (I would expect) at more 'normal' places Far fewer of those fucking social leeches where I go, chap!
...but you wouldn't get to fuck them right?
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what would you do, if you met a girl you were crazy about and she adored you, then she told you she worked in asda?
Exactly - to me that would sound a whole lot better than "Oh, I blag free drinks out of rich mugs as I'm pretty and so should have my life paid for".