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If you don't like the people you mix with then you should find others who find your interests. Yes it can be easier said than done but its not impossible. i'm sure others may have said this before me, if so apologies
Thsi has already basically been said, but you are right.
- Some people get all the luck and are able to take their pick from a lot of great offers, whilst others get nothing whatsoever.
- It's a self-perpetuating cycle upward or downwards, in that if you have success you get more and more confident and become more successful, and if you get nothing things get worse and worse (i.e. the longer you stay unemployed, the more unemployable you become)
- There's boxes you need to tick along with an 'x-factor' to do well.
In my case I'm incredibly confident with jobs because I've never had a job rejection in my life and am one of the most employable people my age with a perfect CV, at the same time having no confidence whatsoever with women, it's difficult to retain an ounce of confidence when you've been rejected your entire life and never once to your knowledge had anyone be remotely interested.
:yes: Nuff said
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You do realise that the thread starter wasn't Jomery, don't you?
Whilst I'm doing well at putting on a facade, where I'm struggling is having any confidence though that something could actually happen. Realistically I don't know how anyone in my shoes, who has been rejected their entire life (often with bullshit excuses like 'I don't want a boyfriend' and then they start seeing someone a week later) can retain optimism and confidence.
Now if you were older and a virgin then i'd be slightly concerned, cos thats just odd.
Someone was lying to you. If you were that popular and sociable you'd have been fucked many a time.
I'm not sure whats wrong with you.
I agree.
Eta: You're either really ugly, or a total geek, or slimy... or people think you're gay.
This would be so much easier if we could see your photo
I concur.
Lol shes telling the truth.
I'm being realistic! He's none of those anyway as proved by the photo.
You can't always tell what a person is like from their appearance.
Ayyyeee.
Post the picture again Jomery
Back from yet another night out where I met several girls and with each of them had a great conversation, bought them drinks, danced a bit and that was it.
Do you ever try to make a move? Because most girls won't.
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Maybe you intimidate girls a bit? Or you go for girls that don't really like toffs. I for one wouldn't want anything to do with you if you went to public school and Cambridge, maybe other girls feel the same?
If you want my advice aim for the girl wearing a twinset and pearls
Maybe you come across as a snob?
Tbh, as a woman I don't know if I'd date somebody who had achieved much more than me... But then that's because I'd feel threatened intellectually.