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I was debating whether to post this because it seems like I'm making a big deal out of nothing. Last night me and my boyfriend had a minor row on MSN (yeah I know..not the best place for it) and I went offline in a strop. This was just before I was going to bed too. Anyway I couldn't sleep and found myself getting really upset and texted to tell him.
He didn't reply till 30 minutes later because he was in the bath but that 30 minutes of feeling paranoid and like I was about to be dumped was the most agonising thing ever. I found myself thinking 'if he doesn't text me in 10 mins, he doesn't love me and can't be arsed'....soon turned to 'okay he must hate me and be in love with someone else' completely irrational because I KNOW that he does love me.
Anyway amidst all this blather, I have a point I guess. If I feel this strongly for him. I hate that I can feel like stabbing myself in the eye at such a minor hiccup with him. It seems unhealthy and arghhhhhhhhhhhh.
He didn't reply till 30 minutes later because he was in the bath but that 30 minutes of feeling paranoid and like I was about to be dumped was the most agonising thing ever. I found myself thinking 'if he doesn't text me in 10 mins, he doesn't love me and can't be arsed'....soon turned to 'okay he must hate me and be in love with someone else' completely irrational because I KNOW that he does love me.
Anyway amidst all this blather, I have a point I guess. If I feel this strongly for him. I hate that I can feel like stabbing myself in the eye at such a minor hiccup with him. It seems unhealthy and arghhhhhhhhhhhh.
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You know he loves you, as you said, you just need to pick the time and place for talking about your issues and having your little spats. It's too easy to say things you regret on there because you're not face to face, and in a normal situation your rationale would tell you that they have a face like thunder already and you should shut the hell up. Evil, evil msn
that is exactly how i felt! That if he thought about it over and over in his head he'd decide I wasn't worth the hassle therefore I had to sort it out asap before it was too late. Then my sane kicked in a bit and I thought that if he decided to finish with me it was going to happen whether I had spoken to him or not. Turned out I underestimated how laid back he is and he just put it down to PMT :rolleyes: Which truthfully might have added to it.
Everyone has arguments (we had a scorcher the other night!) and that's life.
mine isn't long distance or over the Internet
Look at you, multiply with 100 and you got me. If I was in that situation and he (in my case a she, hopefully) wouldn't text me, I'd honestly make myself believe she must've have been abducted by aliens. I am so bad at those overinterpreting things and I always say the same to myself, "that's not healthy" and just drives every girl off.
A controlling, jealous, snoopy demeanor and I wish I knew how to change myself.
(sorry) I'm just as bad though and have got into a bit of trouble because I moan if someone doesn't respond on MSN...
you've saved my night!
also, i get in a panicky spiral because i get worried that minor rows are unhealthy therefore there must be something wrong with the relationship altogether, but theyre ok really.
and the overinterpreting thing - everyone does it, dont worry
ive just got to the point in my 2yr relationship where its getting a bit samey, so i argue on msn over the fact that it is, instead of getting on with it. after 2 years i shouldnt be this insecure but i just want a bit of attention and surprise romancey things sometimes, can't say that to the bf though for risk of sounding like an idiot. unhealthy and gahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh too!!! :P
Oh, sorry, I just made a couple of assumptions there. Oops.
It's easy to start misinterpreting everything, but there are few things that can't be solved by some really good make-up sex.
you just need to try your hardest to calm down and look at what you're mad at rationally. which is not at all easy! you obviously care a great deal about him, but moaning about the small inconsistancies in his texting etc aren't going to let him know this.
but as kermit said, good make-up sex is a good fix :thumb:
Pretty Woman is a well good film! I've been forced to watch it so many times by ex girlfriends that it's actually grown on me....same for all chick flicks.
He kept ripping the piss and when the song Pretty Woman came on he changed it to 'Ugly Woman..walking down the street'...what a loser
Not the best film in the world obviously but good for when I'm in a shmaltzy mood. I'm such a sucker because I cry everytime I watch it
Haha. I went off that film entirely when Hugh Grant's character felt the need to mention Sept 11. Can't remember the line exactly but blughhhhh...it was such a cheap move!
Ah I do like that!
HAHAHA. YOU MILKSOP
God, has NME started telling it's readers what films to watch now or did you just come up with an opinion of your own? :eek:
I don't like Pretty Woman because of Gere, proven by the fact that Julia Roberts was in Notting Hill with Hugh Grant which is my favourite film ever ever ever :yippe:
shaddap! you're the same you austrian muffin
*sob* oh no... it's the story of a hooker who fucked a rich man, who was stupid enought to let her into his private life. *whine*
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what? gere is awesome. red corner, primal fear....