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bulimia, self-harm and depression ...

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi, i'm new and only just discovered this site. This is hard to type as there is only really one person who knows everything about me. To cut a long story short, i have suffered from bulimia for over a year and a half, and have been cutting for just over six months. Over time, and after being to various GP's, pyschotherapists, and counsellors i have realised most of my problems stem from family problems. At school, things have become difficult as my friends don't know much because before i have had two close friends betray my confidence. This has made it hard to tell anyone else anything.
Not being able to talk to ppl at school makes things more difficult - i can't stop crying, and sometimes i would get so upset that i would be hysterical and wouldn't even be able to support myself and would collapse onto the ground.
One teacher knows everything, and she is a gr8 help. But when i've been talking to her, i get upset and she'll take me along to the nurse to calm down before i go back to lessons. The nurse has recently suggested that i may be suffering from depression, and this just make things more complicated and confusing for me.
I don't know why i decided to type this, but i suppose i'm just looking for some advice.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Welcome to thesite Scotish Angel, you will find that there are a few users who suffer some or all of the problems you have mentioned, I for one am a depression sufferer and self harmer. If there is anything we can do just ask, welcome to the site.
    Luv 'n' Peace
    Luk

    I think it's because I'm clumsy
    I try not to talk to loud
    I think it's because I'm crazy
    I try not to act to proud
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    I too suffer from bulimia (see previous topic). Im slowly getting better. I also had depression about 1 1/2 yrs ago and when things go bad i tried self harming. I felt that i needed to cause myself pain because i had caused others pain if that makes sense?!
    I never spoke to my mates about my problems because i was scared they wouldnt understand and think i was a freak or summit. My mum knew bout the self harming and depression and went skitz, she was sayin how i had to go n see a psychologist n all this. Luckily i eventually got over depression and the self harming didnt last very long. I hope you manage to sort some of your problems out and if you ever wanna talk <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Please dont suffer alone, it only makes things worse.

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hiya, welcome to thesite!
    Ive been through all of the above and various other crap. Im better now after having Liam (just had a baby) but also I spent some time in hospital which was probably the best place for me at the time.
    I didnt really speak to anyone at school either as two of my friends opened their mouths, but I realise now it was only for my own good. Sometimes people tell other people coz they care not coz they wanna be two faced, but I dunno bout your situation. I also became really close with my PE teacher who was the one who first spotted me loosing weight. She wrote to me when I was in hospital and we have kept in contact ever since, she has been great! Anyway, u can always come on here and share your problems coz as u can see there are other people that have been there too so u aint alone <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks guys. I know loads of ppl have ben through some of all of the things i have and was wondering....i get the feeling that i want to stop the bulimia and the self-harm, and its not that i enjoy it, becoz i don't really (i don't think) its just that at times i feel i have to do it. like biting ur nails, u can say u won't do it, and u don't want to do it, but when u need to bite them...u need to bite them!! I feel i won't be able to stop, until i don't want to do it, but at the mo i still do. My teacher thinks i want to stop completely, and she's getting me information of who to go to, but i feel like the next time i see her, i want to say that i don't want to stop. Plz can u help me on wot to say? And how to explain how i feel
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i also want to say that i often get panicky - about what i'm doing to myself, what's happened, and what is going to happen. is this normal, or what...?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its normal to get panicky when u r doing things to yourself that u know arnt good for u. Thats just your sensible side coming through, and the one u should listen to although its hard to do as I no all too well.
    I think that u know what u r doing is wrong and I think that u want to sort it out. Maybe u should take a trip to the docter and maybe get referred to a counceller or psychiatrist who can help u deal with your feelings and find ways of living without harming yourself. Its pretty scary doing this but its the best thing in the end and there are obviosly things that u need to get out. U can always chat to everyone here <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks lolly. I also wanted to ask everyone what they think i should say to my teacher. At the moment, she thinks i am coping...but, the truth is, that i don't think i am. However, i am scared that if i say i'm not, she'll tell my parents. Without my permission, my head of guidance foned my parents, telling them i'd been 'scratching' myself. She hadn't even told me she'd foned, but left it up to the other teacher. Now, i just feel i can't trust anyone. Plz help me on what to say to my teacher, and how to explain things - how to say how i'm really feeling....plz i could do with any advice right now. thanks
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    plz can someone reply?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dont really no what to say to u about what to tell your teacher because only u really no. The problem is that if she is worried she will have to tell your parents as she would get in big shit if she didnt and then something happenbed to you. This is why I say about maybe seeing a counseller because everything is private in that case and also they r trained in this area more than your teacher is. I wish I could help u more, sorry!
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