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my nan and breathing difficulties

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
Some of you might have read my livejournal about my nan being ill. She’s findin it really hard to breathe apparently and my aunt went round there today and said that she looked really bad. She’s a really heavy smoker and won’t go to the doctors even though she can barely breathe and can’t sleep or anything.

And then my aunt foned ,my mum to tell her and then my mum started crying and tried to phone her, spoke to my grandad and heard my nan in the background and then when she asked to speak to her, my grandad lied and said she was out.

And everythings really weird because she won’t go to the doctors and won’t talk to anyone and no-one knows whats going on and everyones really worried and stressed out and upset, and I want to help but I don’t know if I can.

Now theyre talking about moving her down here to be around us and everything and it sounds really bad and im kind of expecting the worst but also trying not to think about it. And everything was fine a couple of hours ago and then the lady next door came round and my mum just broke down in tears and god this is so weird.

Everything’s weird at the moment. Why won’t she see someone? Why won’t she speak to us? What can I do? What if something is seriously wrong?

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There's a girl in my mirror
I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm not really sure what to say..just the main thing is try not to worry. I know its far easier said, than done, but worrying won't make a difference.
    Try and talk 2 ur mum - she'll want and need support. Perhaps they're not telling u anything, coz they're trying 2 protect u, or mayb they're just nt thinking.

    Go up to ur mum, and ask her wots wrong. Explain to her that ur worried, and ask her to tell u wot's going on.

    I don't know if that helps, i hope so.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thx 4 replyin, i din't think ne1 cared lol.

    yeah i will try to talk to her x

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tell me how you get on....i care!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ahh! im sending you a big hug Drifter!!

    Your nan probably doesnt want to talk to anyone because shes used to being independant, and doesnt want to feel like shes being a nusance to the people she cares about.

    Also, shes used to being the "strong" one, looking after her family (your mum), when they were ill or in trouble, so it'll be weird for her to feel like shes relying on the people who she thinks should be relying on her. Its a matter of pride really!

    Dont know if all of this information will apply to you, its just the idea that i got from reading your post. Hope it works out for you, keep smilin!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey drifter....I care ok. Hope she is ok. My dad thinks he has angina but wont go to the docter...its really frustrating.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Mega Poster Posts: 2,822
    drifter, i care, i read your post (am i going mad or did you post it twice? and then delete the first? lol), and also in your LJ. i just didnt know what to say, i know i shouldve just posted a hug or something, im sorry <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; ((((((((((drifter))))))))))) i hope you find out whats happening and that she gets better soon.

    I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I care ((((Drifter)))).

    Call anytime and keep me posted.

    xXx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ((((((((((drifter)))))))))

    I'm sorry, I care too, I really had no idea what to say but like Emma said I should have posted a hug or something, I'm sorry <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ((((guys))))

    fanks peeps.

    she's going to the doctors this week. i hope she's ok.

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You every thought that she might be just as scared as you?

    As you get older you start to appreciate your own mortality. Friends and family start to die and it brings reality home.

    Give her lots of hugs, tell her you love her and be a good grandson (i'm sure that's what she would want for you)

    Hope she's okay tho' dude.

    "Cough up the rent, Mr Kent
    And don't go blame it on the government"
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