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How many is a lot?
My housem8 in his single days said he slept with 25 girls. Is that bad for a guy?
And this girl i like said she slept with about 32 guys? Is that bad?
Thing is, i think it is more intimidating than disgusting.
My housem8 in his single days said he slept with 25 girls. Is that bad for a guy?
And this girl i like said she slept with about 32 guys? Is that bad?
Thing is, i think it is more intimidating than disgusting.
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Let them do what they wanna do, their private life should be no concern of yours.
I suppose someones sexual past is no business of mine but does it not give you some insight to what they are like? I know people's past make people who they are but if they continue to sleep with people, what does it say about them and would you get involved with someone like that?
Someone like what? The only thing you can tell by the fact that someone has slept with x number of people, is that they have slept with x number of people. Any other judgement you make based on that fact is just your own opinion and prejudices.
If you can get many sexual partners then all the power to you.
I just like to know what makes them tick to do things like that.
I mean, being able to pull many people does not mean you have to, does it?
Plus, everyone makes judgements and have opinions either conciously or sub-conciously (sorry if it is spelt incorrectly).
Its just their past, and theres sooo many different reasons why someone may have.
I suppose i m old fashioned in my ways. the thing is this girl has said she liked me but at the same time has slept with another guy and is a horny so and so. I m a bit confused as to her feelings towards me and dont know what to make of the situation if any.
My two! Not trying to say that you have judged her at all, just that I think it's important not to do so.
Mila
I know what you are saying, i mean it was only a few months ago she bumped into me. She is currently on holiday and enjoying herself as a single girl. As a single girl, i suppose she can do whatever she likes without feeling bad.
i guess its probably how i ve been brought up but i am not judging her at all about her sexual past. At the end of the day, it is just a number and she is who she is. Just getting jealous that she is sleeping with guys on holiday, thats all. But then again, i like her and probably not thinking realistically!:banghead:
Its a complete arse! i dont like the feeling yet i have to put up with it. I suppose if they had a bf, you know they are happy and so you can be happy for them!
But cos she is sleeping with other guys and she is single, feels like she doesnt really care about me and sees me as a notch on the bedpost! Then again, its a girl and i dont understand them!
I understand that an eventful sexual history doesnt make someone a bad person, doesnt make them more likely to cheat or anything like that, but i guess its a matter of my personal taste or something? I just cant get attracted to a man that has been around alot.
Some people are able to have sex/one night stands/fuck buddies etc and deal with it very well. I wasn't one of those people and it took me a while to understand that.
Your friend might feel like I do, or she might be someone who knows herself very well and knows where her limits and what she is comfortable doing and what she is not comfortable doing.
My opinion is that it doesn't matter what she is doing or why (unless it becomes a risk to her health in some way as it did for me). I'm not really being objective here as I have a lot of personal stuff tied up in this issue. But I think it's important for any person to know that their friends are there for them and would never place judgements on their behaviour. So, I think it's great you're doing that for your friend, even though you would perhaps act differently around the issue of sex from the way she does.
And try not to think too much about the people she may or may not be having sex with on holiday. They are just that- people she may or may not have had sex with. Try not to be jealous!
This has turned into a total ramble, so I'll stop now! I don't think I really had a point to make anyway... lol.
Mila
You don't believe in one night stands, fair enough. You don't have tio be a prude not to be in to one night stands. :yeees:
Live and let live. Just because it doesn't suit you does not mean that you can judge them on it.
Sexual history doesn't really matter hugely to me, whether they're a virgin or they've slept around it's the person inside who counts. Plus there's a difference between one night stands and cheating.
That's why you don't stick your nose in other people's habits and 'magical numbers' or whatever the trendy euphemism is. You might not like what you see. Let the number of their fucks not be your concern.
Cheers mila, i think this girl is pretty comfortable with it plus she says she always does safe sex. So her views on sex are different to mine.
i suppose the underlying thing with it is not the number of sexual partners she has had but that i m not sure how it will turn out between us as she is in love with the country she is in at the moment and has a wish to live out there. I guess i like her a lot and hearing she sleeps with people out there who are local scares me. it wouldnt surprise me if she decided one day that she fell in love with one of them as she could live out there and be where she dreams of being!
Have a cookie.