If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Options
dating someone you live with?
Former Member
Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
just sighned contrcts to live in a house with some mates next year and recently theres been some sparkage between us, im worried it could be awkward if it went wrong, anyone been in a simmilar situtaton?
0
Comments
I'll elaborate later... Just easier not to, mainly for the other housemates.
Could you handle living together if it all fell apart? Do you want to be in that situation?
I started seeing someone I lived in Halls with (literally across the hall) last year, still with him and we share the same house now (with 2 other people) and its fine. We do spend an crazy amount of time together as well.. Trick is not to be too couply round housemates, cause that could just get weird for everyone!
you'll regret it later if you do, i guarantee it.
so I guess it can work.
I lived with my boyfriend for a year while at uni (but he wasnt my boyfriend at the time), we found out we had feelings for eachother the day before we were due to move out, missed eachother over the summer and therefore visited eachothers homes, became a couple last august then moved back into the same house in september.
I had alarm bells telling me it was a bad idea, so far the living situation has been 100% fine but theres still time for it to go wrong.
The reason i chose to risk it is because in the year we lived together as friends we clicked so well, i knew he was a good person and is good to live with. And if i hadnt have risked it we wouldnt have been able to be a couple, so for me it was worth it after wanting him for about a year beforehand.
So in my opinion it can be great. But who knows if it will stay great for me, i have no idea, but even if it does all go wrong im glad i risked it.
Therefore it depends on your circumstances. Sometimes you just know. And sometimes its worth the risk. But i wouldnt risk it if its just a spark your experiencing. And if you've never lived with him before now its very risky.
I remember you posting about that, so good result then, eh?
pfft.
ha i noticed when i quoted it, saw the link then.
yes, thanks. Its going really good
first year at uni i really fancied my flatmate - and in the second week of the first term i went out and got reeeally drunk, ended up confessing my feelings for him (that werent reciprocated cuz he had a girlfriend) , i cried... and then after that for the whole rest of the year, things were never the same!!
i got over him pretty quickly after that situation actually, but i think he still thought i was obsessed with him because he never really talked to me for the whole year!! so i buggered that up :chin:
just not worth the risk basically!
I had that happene to me b4, i treated her snesitvely and let her down gently tho then a few months later she did attack me with an aresol can...
but I don tthink the guy should always have to make th emove or confess the feelings and if he does - unles he is some brain dead chav dick with all the depth of a shallow puddle, it took him a lot of balls to do it. Believe me. So He should be given respect for that and understanding and hey - he LIKES YOU, out off all the pretty girls you no doubt compare yourself to everyday. He picks you.
And if a girl made a move on me, made the moves, told me her feelings I'd totally respect her for it and it would make me see her ian goo dlight that she could do that and actually took the time and know and like me.
i moved in with my bf and two of his friends in 2005 and living together meant having no time to myself.
we broke up last easter and he kicked me out of the house straight away. i had to go home and then finish my summer term of university living in halls of residence.
if it goes well can be perfect but it puts a lot of pressure on a relationsip.
I knew a couple that moved into halls together and a month down the line, they split up. For the rest of the year, they were extremely unhappy. Not good :no: